How long should we let an 11 week old baby cry?

Question

Our 11 week old puts herself to sleep great at night. We don't have to do anything to get her to go to sleep except play a little music.
But during the day, she fights sleep very hard and cries hysterically. If I cuddle/soothe her, she falls asleep. But I'm not sure if we're developing bad habits? Should we let her cry or soothe her?
11 weeks seems too young to me to be "letting her cry it out."

Answer 1

I think it's too young as well. You're blessed that she'll put herself to sleep at night. During the day, I vote you take the path of least resistance. Cuddle that baby! Best of luck!

Answer 2

Cry it out is not necessary.... especially at 11 weeks. You are doing the right thing by comforting her. She is crying for a reason and she needs you. Trust yourself.

It might be that you are trying to get her to nap at the wrong time for her. If she is undertired or overtired she may fight sleep. Each baby has a sleep window, and you should just watch her cues and put her down to sleep when she starts showing signs of tiredness. Babies can only stay up for so long, and this will increase as they get older. She falls asleep independently at night, so you know she can do it, so it may just be that you need to follow her unique sleep patterns.

Best wishes!

Answer 3

Shes way to young....she needs to know you are there for her and that you wont leave her. She's been in you for 9 months with your warm and your heartbeat...sometimes they say when you hold and cuddle your baby she hears your heartbeat and it soothes them. At 6 months they say start off with 10 min then longer....My daughter only falls asleep with a ba ba.

Answer 4

i will probaly get thumbs down on this one but i personally believe in letting them cry a little bit.

my son was the same way for the past month , i rocked him till my back did hurt then i made a stop to it,

every time i put him in to his crib he would wake up then i picked him up, the whole circle will go on and on upntil i gave in and slept with him on my chest.

now what i do is a make sure i did all that i can do, bath him, feed him , burb him an change his diaper.

i know him when he has gas or in some pain, you know that too you are the mom.

if all seem good to me. i put him in there and walk away, i make sure he see me before he sleeps so he know to fall asleep on his own, if he cries which he does most of the time i live him for 10 minutes or so,

then i will go in again give him his pacifer in case he dropped it and walk right out again. then he will cry again i wait then go in again, mind you no matter how many times i go in i never pick him up from his bed, i can stand there and sing to him but no picking up at all and i dont talk to him neither just singing.

now he falls asleep on his own in his own roo and even during the day when i havwe staff to do i just lay him there and he wont make a sound , he plays for more that 45minutes and then fuss for like 5 minutes and falls to sleep.

if you dont break it now then you will face a bigger challlange later an it will be hard to break the habbit.
let the baby cry not for more that 10 minutes and every day strech it a little and before soon you will be a happy mom.

pick the child up of course if he starts to throw up or anything like that. i have a video monitor so i watch him or just stand there and look at then but dont pick then up.

dont under=estimate them they are way to inteligent that we think .

but then agai again it is up to you.

Answer 5

It took my daughter three months to quit crying from colic. So, I think you've got another week to go. Hold in there mama, this too will pass. Don't forget to get your rest too, or it will be harder for you to cope. Fussiness or light crying is normal for short periods. Give her lots of love for those more difficult occasions. She's not trying to drive you to distraction, or planning any complicated conspiracy. She's just doing her thing. Before you know it, it will subside. Now, go take a power nap!

Answer 6

you are right, 11 weeks is too young. at that age, they only cry if something is wrong. try changing her routine. maybe give her a bath and a bottle right before nap. there is nothing wrong with cuddling, soothing her. it is important for a child to be touched to bond well and they need touch to grow emotionally properly. when she is older you can change her routine. i would cuddle her, enjoy the time and not worry.

Answer 7

I have a 6 week old and have a similar situation. I tried to let her cry it out one night and she cried for over an hour. A bit excessive in my opinion. Her pediatrician and my Obgyn both said that you can't spoil them until 3 months. After three months I wait 20 minutes and that worked great with my first child.

Answer 8

That is a good question. I know that some Mexicans joke about, but are serious when they let there baby cry themself to sleep. They seem like well developed, hard working, good family people, so maybe they are on to something if they really do this. That is a very tough question? I would ask that question to as many parents as possble.

Answer 9

dont let her cio. she justs wants to feel like she is part of the family. in the day time out her ina swing or walker sitting up and im sure she will be fine. i am going through the same thing and its working great now

Answer 10

My son was rocked to sleep everytime it was time for him to go to bed or for a nap. When I layed him down he stayed asleep. He wasn't spoiled to being held at all. Just try rocking them and then putting them down,if they stay asleep then you know there's no harm in it. Doesn't hurt to try anything with them. Hope this helps.