My fiance and I broke up over the summer he got someone pregnant and I actually ended up pregnant.?

Question

We working on having a child together before this mess happened. anyways we are finally back together his baby is due in may and mines due in july whats your opinion? do you think it could work? its four years plus in the making

I'm not pregnant with his child so we both ****** up

Answer 1

Too much baby mama drama. She'll be calling all the time all day long. She'll whine and b*tch and find every disruptive despicable thing to do. Then there's the fact he has to spend time with that baby, you'll wonder if he's spending "time" with her too and all that stuff is not good for a relationship.

He came back to you, so she's going to feel jealous and cheated and envious. It will not be a happy extended family.

What about the your baby's father? Is he going to be around?

I guess the cleanest tidiest way to do this, to get the other parents to sign away their parental rights or at least get full custody of the children, so you could raise both children by yourselves. It would solve a lot of present and future problems.

You both were incredibly dumb, but it could work if you both want it to. It will require a total commitment though.

Answer 2

When I met my husband we were just friends, well he this girl he had dated claimed to be pregnant, I knew she wasn't because she was going along with what he was telling her about how far along she should be (at the time he knew nothing about pregnancy) anyways to make him feel better I drew him an oil picture of a little girl Angel because I told him his first child would be a girl. Two weeks later we found out she lied, and that I was pregnant (with his child, yes I know stupid) Regardless I left for the next 7 months and he came to the birth of our daughter (like I told him he would have) we fell in love the day she was born, we got married two months later, bought a home and are now expecting our second daughter due in March, we've been married over a year now and yes we have our struggles and our fights but we love each other and both of our babies. SO things like that can turn out good, but not always. Besides having two babies at once will be very difficult, but I don't believe its impossible.

Answer 3

Sounds like hes a busy man...my concerns are is he going to take care of both babies as they needed to be care for emotionally and financially. Having two babies, that young requires a lot of time and support, and Im afraid that one will get the short end of the deal. Also, another concern that I have is that if you all break up again is someone else going to end up pregnant? Its sounds like he needs to step up big time and take some responsibilty, because it wasnt happening if he is having 2 babies just a couple months apart. I want to wish you both all the luck but I think you need to look at the whole situation including why you guys broke up in the first place. And what is he saying to the other mother? Are they still friends? Is she looking to be with him as well? This is a tough one Good Luck to all of you!!

Answer 4

Friends of ours went through exactly the same thing. The babies are 2 or 3 months apart. They are now trying to get full custody of his daughter as the mother is a crack addict. They often have his daughter although the mother has made life hell for this couple.
The guys wife is really great with his daughter and he is good to her 2 kids from a previous marriage. They are making it work. They had a second child together 10 months ago and are doing well. It can work if you open your heart to a child who is fautless. All the best.

Answer 5

Oh my goodness. That is a very awkward situation. You are both going to have a lot of emotions about the whole thing. When his baby is due in May, you will have to deal with him being around the baby and the baby's mother all the time. Then when yours is born in July, he will have to deal with your baby's father being around a lot. I think you guys should give it a shot, but don't go getting married right away. Give it time to work itself out. Good luck!

Answer 6

Wow that is one hell of a mess! You are both having children but not with each other, it just doesn't sound like it is going to work. I guess if you try hard enough and you both except each others kids as your own you have a chance. I don't see why you are going backwards though, try moving ahead and finding a man who isn't going to ditch you and get some random girl pregnant. Good luck.

Answer 7

Wow you are in a really crap situation, it must be really hard for both of you. In my opinion i dont think this relationship is going to work because your babys father will always be around and same with your fiances babys mother. Its going to be a real wedge in your relationship. If i were you, i would get out of this now before you both go thru to much. But its totally up to you and do what you think is right

Answer 8

Hmmm so hes havin a baby with some one else and you are? Im sorry i think it ll end in disaster y would u get back with him? u both dont care much about each other for the both of u not to use protection!!!!! Take it from some1 who knows two new borns is a lot of work! People think twins are easier, dont know y they are two babies not 1!!! DOUBLE THE WORK

Answer 9

sorry to hear that well give it a try but theres always going to be drama my brother and hes wife where together for 8 yrs and broke up for about 9 months then he meet this girl and she ended up pregnant things didnt work out so him and his wife got back together she ended being pregnant 2 now he was 2 kids from 2 different women but my siter in law is always dealing with the fact that the other girl that Wh** is always calling my brother for stupid exuces and theres always dram so just be ready

Answer 10

I am sorry to tell you that a man (or boy) who is trying to start a family with his girlfriend then dumps her on a whim to sleep with other women is two things: not ready for a family; and a sleezeball. You can find a man who is willing to commit his sperm to only you and sooo much more. Good luck. I am sorry he sucks, even after 4 years. Time does not make a good match.