Ever since i had my second child my body is not the same-i love my man and we have a good marriage however-where physical connections are concerned, i can not "get there" like I did in the past. (but I can when Im solo) Afew times we tried to discuss it but it was akward and it didnt help. So, for the past 2 yrs Ive just been faking it. I still like it and i still want it but, I guess I dont want to go the rest of my life this way, but on the other hand, I'd rather just deal with it than have it become a problem. What should I do? Fess up or let sleeping dogs lie?
2007-12-19 12:31:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know its not a physical problem bcz i can "get ther " when Im doing things alone...
2007-12-19 12:56:05 · update #1
it is best to get it out in the open..if it were me i would want to know. that way we could find ways to satisfy you.
2007-12-19 12:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by KT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fess up. I don't understand why you would fake it. That is not going to help anything. It was awkward? This is your husband. The man that you should be able to tell anything to. The man that witnessed you give birth. I am not afraid to tell my husband anything. You need to experiment to see what will get you there. Since he thinks that you are, he is doing what he thinks he knows that works. Have a heart to heart with him.
2007-12-19 20:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a lose-lose situation. You have already screwed this up by lying to begin with. By faking it for two years, you either have to fake it forever, because you don't want him to know you have lied, or you can not fake it, but he will wonder what is suddenly wrong with him. I think honesty is the best policy, but he is always going to wonder if you are telling the truth if you manage to "get there" while the two of you are intimate.
2007-12-19 20:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt fess up cuz it could come out wrong and then youd look like the jerk who lies, i would next time your in bed, just tell him what you would like, or say "i wanna try something new" and just get him to do whatever you want. you have to make it seem like it was his idea so when you "get there" he feels like he did it. just dont tell him you fake or that will lead to no where good!
2007-12-19 20:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~*kjzge*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows your faking it already. So why not discuss it with him and together, come up with a solution. maybe watching porn together and mimicking what you see. The struggle might bring you together like youve never been before if anything else.
2007-12-19 20:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by tommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fess up & then go to a hot, sex-toy store...explore and have a little fun, hell, maybe you'll even have a lot of fun...
2007-12-19 20:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken with your doctor about it. There are treatments for sexual dysfunction, not that what your describing is that.
I think that's what you need to do.
2007-12-19 20:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by doktrgroove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋