when my dad is at work i take care of my lil bro and sis (Im 17 in a month and a half)....but there's this guy that stays with us right now cuz his mom is away and there's no1 at his house (so theres no food or whatever right nw)...hes like 18/19 and he works but all he ever does is sit around the house and eat THEN SLEEP and its like the place is SO dirty and he never even THINKS 2 clean up..he leaves his dishes anywhere in the house and sits on the couch and play ps2 and watch tv ALL day!!....he hasnt been goin 2 work lately so hes been in the house like 3 days STRAIGHT now...and the house ALWAYS as i left it cuz i have college and i come late and i have homework, have to take care of my siblings AND keep the place clean..but he's not helping...hes just EATING OUR FOOD!! and sleeping....and he eats SO MUCH!!!!...and its irritating to see him eat cuz he doesnt do ANYTHING around here....what should i do?
2007-12-19 12:18:54 · 10 answers · asked by Heaven 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im younger so i cant be rude or tell him what to do cuz dats mean... and my dad's tries 2 tell him but he doesnt wanna be mean if u get wat im saying....I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!
2007-12-19 12:20:01 · update #1
he's a family friend....my mom and his mom are really good friends....so its kinda like a cousin relationship....but hes not blood
2007-12-19 12:25:14 · update #2
You need to talk with your dad, and he needs to enforce that there are rules - he should be the one to intervene, because he is the adult. If this jerk is going to stay with you, he needs to follow the house rules, or go! First of all, if he is 18/19, he is plenty old enough to take care of himself; why can't he stay at his mom's? This should be what happens if he can't get it together, you should not be his maid-servant. Hang in there, you sound very responsible. Hope it works out!
2007-12-19 12:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Dad about it. There is no way you should be in that house all the time alone with an 18 year old that isn't family. Your Dad needs to tell him that he needs to clean up after himself and do some chores around the house. Why would your parents allow him to mooch off them? And why would they make you clean up his mess? Lots of questions for your Dad. Good luck.
2007-12-19 12:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad should tell him to start helping around the house--that's not being mean to say that.
If dad won't, then you should ask the guy to clean up after himself. You don't have to say it meanly. Just say you have a lot to do with college and your siblings and you don't have time to pick up after him, specifically could he wash his dishes and whatever else you want him to do. Just treat him like he's one of your friends, don't think of him as "older".
But you can't be too mad abt the food if you're not paying for it.
2007-12-19 12:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the subsequent time you communicate on your mom ask her who's meant to act the the person you or her? simply by fact merchandising your canine is the main infantile element i've got ever heard of. And for her to come again on your college and tell them to no longer permit you notice your female pal is loopy. She's basically burnt simply by fact Sandra's dad puzzled her parenting skills. this finished subject has no longer something to do with you and Sandra and has each and every thing to do together with her being mad at Sandra's mom and dad. simply by fact while i became sixteen (im 21) my mom and dad never might have left me by myself. And if I had teenagers your age i might never enable them to be by myself with any toddler. so as that truly became your mom's fault for doing that. She basically had her delight harm and it is not ur fault. perhaps attempt to describe that to her. except she's too prideful to hearken to that communication.
2016-11-23 16:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be mean about it but tell both this guy and your dad that you are NOT the maid. That you are going to school, watching the kids, cleaning house all on your own. Your only 17 for GOD Sake...tell them to get off their buts and start helping or you are leaving...Don't let them talk you out of it....Best of luck
2007-12-19 12:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♥STREAKER♥©℗† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have the age or authority to tell him what to do but that shouldn't stop you from speaking. tell the room at large what you think. do it when your dad is around. keep your sentences short and neutral. don't get mad and don't expect results but speaking will alleviate your frustration and tell him what he's doing wrong. he's a guy; it's entirely possible he's unaware of the problem.
2007-12-19 13:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does something like that, say "clean up" Not completely serious, but serious enough for him to get the message. If he takes it as a joke, say "I'm serious." And eventually he will get in the habit.
2007-12-19 12:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Helper1337 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong. It looks like you're gonna have to suck it up if your dad isn't willing to help you out. Hopefully this is a very temporary situation.
2007-12-19 12:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never heard of a16 year old in college,,, but o-well , tell you nasty *** friend to get the hell out of your house,, use holy water if you have to ,, get the priest in there to do a exorcist tell him to move his *** , you are not disrespecting anyone hes disrespecting you , and your faimy good-luck,,
2007-12-19 12:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would talk to your mom and give this note to your dad
2007-12-19 12:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋