is my husband cheating?

Question

im not the person that checks my husbands phone i trusted him and he went out and i was ok with it but things change lately, he came from work and showed me a text message it was something funny but accidentally i press the wrong buttom and i open another text message from a number with no name their conversation was about them meeting up and stuff he also wrotte in a massage if you need a stress realiver call me so when can remeber the old days dtf i dont know what those enitials mean well i ask him about those messages and he got really mad saying why are you going tru my phone i answer him sayin i was looking at the message you showed me and accidentally i open another one he told me it was hes friend a guy and that they where just messing around but i dint buy that story so i called that number and a girl answer and she told me hes been hiting on her and stuff but then my husband deconected my phone and she couldnt tell me more what do you thing

WELL I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK I DONT WANT TO ARGUE WITH HIM BECAUSE IM 4 MONTHS PREGNANT AND ITS NOT GOOD FOR MY BABY THE GIRL TOLD ME THEY MEET UP 1 1 1/2 IN A CHRISTMAS PARTY AND WHERE IN DECEMBER SO OK SOMEONE MADE A CHRISTMAS PARTY IN JUNE??? WELL SHE SAID THEY WHERE JUST TALKING AND STUFF BUT IN THE MESSAGE HE ASKED HER TO MEET UP TO REMEMBER OLD GOOD TIMES DTF I DONT KNOW WHAT THOS ENITIALS MEANS BUT SHE TOLD ME THAT HES THE ONE CALLING HER BUT THAT SHES NOT INTERSTED BECAUSE SHES MARRIED AND THAT WHEN SHE MEET HIM SHE WAS SINGLE SHE WAS GONNA TELL ME MORE BUT HE DISCONETED THE PHONE WHAT SHOULD I DO

Answer 1

honney if he tells you he's not cheating than he's lying because if he wasn't than he would not get mad.

Answer 2

Sounds like the intension was there but the time needed to close the deal was a bit premature. In other words no he didn't cheat with her, but only because he got caught. Now, if you can ever get back to that girl and ask just how bold he was in his pursuits, that will tell you if he has done this before. Cheaters are an ignorant and "arrogant" bunch. They feed on the knowledge learned from each conquest. If you want to make sure you have about 2-3 years of non- cheating by your husband, sit down and describe just what your lawyer is going to do to him when the divorce gets momentum. He will need a second job just to survive, and no woman is going to want some poor schmuck with a vindictive ex-wife. Tell him you will be searching every phone bill, watching every penny spent, and if you get wind of any questionable activity, his world will get very complicated. And if he squawks about his privacy being threatened, just remind him the "HE" was the one that destroyed the trust! That should do it!

Answer 3

You already know the answer to this question. It is obvious, he is cheating, attempting and preparing to cheat. Flirting with someone is a form of cheating. I would be rid of him now. It is not going to get better before or after the baby comes. If you don't do anything about this now. He needs to know you mean business. Do not be a door mat even if you think you can't live without him. Women are survivors and can achieve any obstacle that comes there way. So believe, move on, and don't look back.

Answer 4

ouch, seems likes hes on his way there..... Id suggest trying to talk to him subtly about it. or more so, plan something nice for him, Get his attention back. Hes missing something in your relationship, and is going else where to find it. Doesnt excuse him from acting out like a D_g but when men stray usually its because they are missing something- this could be spontaneousness in the relationship- who knows i dont know your full story and this is my opinion of course.
You also say you trust him, while this is really good for a healthy relationship, showing a little jealousy once in a while keeps him feeling attractive......

Answer 5

The innocent with nothing to hide do not get mad or defensive. He should not care that you saw any of his text messages.

It is good the female was honest with you. This is either his character (a player), he is going through testing his desire to be free, or he wants you to be there for him as he lives a double life. That said, your husband is lying to you in many ways and unless serious honesty can now take place you do not have much to work with.

Answer 6

Well, if he hasn't already cheated on you with this girl, he's about to. DON'T let him get angry at you for catching him....flip out on him, because HE'S the bad guy! Tell him that if he doesn't cut it off with her, change his phone number, etc. then he's gone! And smash his precious phone off of the front porch to show him you are serious!

Answer 7

I think in your heart you already know the truth, you don't need confirmation from us.
The question you should be asking yourself is "What am I going to do about it"

Good luck hon, it's not an easy road. Stay strong.

Answer 8

I am so sorry your dealing with all this! I no frist hand what it feels like to be cheated on and standng back wondering if he is!

If you would like to chat with me I be more then willing to share things with you. I do listen and dont judge! Belive me! I understand alot more than you may think

I am angelic_dream72 on yahoo chat. My email is [e-mail]

Answer 9

Yep, he's cheating alright. And for future reference, anytime a man reacts with anger, it's because he's been caught. Get a lawyer and get out of the marriage.

Answer 10

He sure is tappin another isnt he. Is he STILL your hero? if he is then this is just the beginning. remember this if you havent smartened up yet, 1 out of 4 has herpes.... 1 out of 3 has a std of somekind...... Now is he still your hero or maybe your death sentence? just askin..... do you think the baby cares?

Answer 11

Is your husband cheating?
Maybe not yet, you might have gotten lucky and prevented him from hooking up with someone else. Though, he has definately intended to cheat.