I talked to my husband before i bought airplane tickets to go on a weekend trip to see a girlfriend for her birthday, i asked him if he wanted to go even tho i knew that he would not be able to get off work, but still wanted to ask, and now he is upset because he cant go and thinks its not fair that im going without him even tho i asked him before! am i in the wrong?
2007-12-19 11:58:51 · 26 answers · asked by ~*kjzge*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I talked to my husband before i bought airplane tickets to go on a weekend trip to see a girlfriend for her birthday, i asked him if he wanted to go even tho i knew that he would not be able to get off work, but still wanted to ask, and now he is upset because he cant go and thinks its not fair that im going on a trip and he cant even tho i asked him before! am i in the wrong? IM NOT CHEATING ON HIM! im just going on a trip to see a friend.
2007-12-19 12:26:30 · update #1
if he could go i would LOVE it but he cant, and were planning on going to the same place in 3 months when he can, it just so happened that i found cheap airfare and my schedule allowed myself to go.
2007-12-19 12:40:24 · update #2
Nope not at all...three weeks ago my wife went to Miami for the jet dolphin game without me...It was a ladies weekend away....I had no kids for 72 hrs!!!! I go away for a long weekend camping in October every year and I think its great that we get away with out each other it gives us time to away to blow off steam
2007-12-19 12:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a thing wrong with going away for a weekend. I think one of the problems in marriages is that people lose their identity as an individual. They start to believe they are only half of a couple instead of one whole individual person.
Both people should feel comfortable with the other one going away for a few days. Me and my husband each take a loner trip each year for a long weekend -- he goes racing with his buddies and I go.....where ever my little heart desires.
2007-12-19 20:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem here. As long as you are not planing on doing anything to jeopardize your marriage. Marriage is based on trust, and if your husband can trust you than he should be able to let you go see your girlfriend without fear that you will do something inappropriate. Talk to him more about it and maybe even tell him he can have a weekend with the guys.
2007-12-19 20:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by doctor love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are OK. Is times were a couple can't be together, and is totally OK for you to spend time with your girlfriend. Your husband may feel jealous because he can't have some time off like you, but he will get over. Just make sure to call him and let him know how you are doing, that way he don't feel excluded. And have tons of fun.
2007-12-19 20:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by ranudita2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've never traveled separately before, this might be causing alarm... as I see it has. Assure him that it's just a weekend and be open about your planned activities.
Mention you plans in casual conversation so you won't feel you are reporting to him your every move.
Try to be empathic and assuring, but take your trip and enjoy yourself. He might find that he can concentrate on his interest and enjoy his space as well. Sometimes a brief separation can make the heart grow even fonder.
2007-12-19 20:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by ageless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You did the right thing when you asked him.
I am sure your hubby will survive the weekend. It is a great time for you to take some time out and catch up with your girlfriend. Recharge your batteries.
Let your husband know you are contactable by phone if it is really urgent.
It will give your husband time away from you and take time out for himself. He could watch the football or whatever he likes when he comes home from work. Gives him time to see the boys, eat what he wants and pick his nose if he likes.
Good luck
2007-12-19 20:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i took a trip to see my sister in hawaii for 2 weeks, my husband also couldn't go cause of work, but it was nice cause i missed him so much, it was the first time i have been away from him that long in 4 years. which improved our marrage even more cause now he won't let me go away again without him. so no i see nothing wrong with it.
2007-12-19 20:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by hartigan18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your intent. If you only asked him just to cover yourself and never wanting him to go in the first place.
What if somehow he could of gotten off work, would that that have spoiled your girlfriend and your plans?
If so, Ya!
Married over twenty years, Thank You!
2007-12-19 20:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still married after 23 years and when my ole lady went on her first vacation the days were enjoyable because I knew she was returning. While she was gone I was free from honey do this honey do that honey I know its 11 p.m. but could you got to the store..etc.
2007-12-19 20:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. You are going to see your friend for her birthday. It's good for the marriage to have some time with your friends, without the spouse along. Everyone needs some "ME" time, as long as it is innocent and not out to hurt the spouse. Go. Enjoy.
2007-12-19 20:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by beecher 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋