im 2 months late I took a test and it said negative so im starting to think the test was a liar, I have sore breast's, anyways, me and the guy broke up and If I am pregnant I dont want him to know so Im not going to tell him because He's controlling and I would hate to have a child be raised by him, im not so sure what to do as I am only 18 year's old, Abortion is out of the question the baby did nothing wrong, my parents have been trying to have another baby for years and she just couldnt get pregnant again, Ive had this idea to if I am pregnant to let theme adopt my baby I would know he/she was safe and being taking care of the way he/she should be taking care of, Do I sound wrong for this? what would you do?
2007-12-19 11:57:35 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Take 2 more tests, one test could be wrong but the other 2 could be right.
2007-12-19 11:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by justin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It don't sound like your expecting, you need to be seen by a doctor and there are free clinics that you can go to in most cities. Once you confirm it either way you can make the decision about what to do. I don't know if I would have my parents adopt, it would have to be with the child always knowing you are the birth mother. If your around even if you don't have custody, and you stay close to the child and the child is raised with the truth you would have a child with a much better feeling about themself. The problem of not telling the father is he is going to have to know sometime. Maybe not until he's got his head screwed on straighter than it is now.
But he will need to know. Your child needs to know also who the father is. Even if he never gets it together a child will resent being kept from the truth. It's okay while their young but believe me when I say they hit the teen years and Lord what a mess you'll have on your hands, or you parents will have on theirs. The child needs to know even if the guy is a jerk, the child should be raised knowing who he is and as he grows he'll know what he is. A man or just another sperm donor.
But first things first, get checked out, before you panic.
I wish you all the luck in the world, and offer one more piece of advise. If your not expecting, don't stay with this guy, don't take the chance the next time it might be positive and you've already said he's not the greatest and you wouldn't want a child by him. New Years is here, start fresh., and God Bless.
2007-12-19 12:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a plan, but first you need to go to a doctor and find out for sure. Then sit down and talk to your mother and father. Let them know that you don't want an abortion, but you can not raise the child which means that you will be giving it up for adoption. Ask them (Without putting any pressure on them because they may not want to raise the baby) if they would consider raising or helping you raise the baby.
2007-12-23 08:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the test with the first morning urine. If you are still testing negative at 2 months late you are probably not pregnant, you are probably just so stressed out about this whole thing that it's keeping the period from coming! That happened to me!
IF you are pregnant, then I agree don't bother telling the father, and give the baby to your mom and dad! But don't tell your folks until you know for sure or you'll get their hopes up. Good luck!
2007-12-19 12:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Shana B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what, if you are unable to take care of the child yourself, than i think that would be Awsome to have them adopt the child. This is what i would do, tell your mom you saw this talk show the other day and one of the girl were pregnant and she could not take care of the child or what ever the case you have. And then go into that she ask her mother to adopt the child. But i would not say to your mother that the child's mother could not have a child, she might catch on. I hope everthing works out for you. If i was your parent i would love you for that, and don't let people say your giving up on the child, it's a better potion than most young girls make.
2007-12-19 12:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Summer-off 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of lots of children being raised by there grandparents as the parents. While this can be a good solution, it can also be confusing as to who is mom and who is aunt and grandma and the whole deal. If you truely want to give your baby up for adoption, may I suggest an open adoption with a non family member. This way you still get to see your child grow with out the possible addition emotional baggage of having your parents raise your baby. Congratulations on choosing to let your child live! It is the correct thing to do!
2007-12-19 12:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Emily E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you - You are wrong. Your decision on this will give you profound influence. I chose to be truthful and give a honest answer. A child without a father is unfair to the kid. If you can not raise and educate the kid, you should have an abortion. (even you don't like it). You can not give the child to your parent. You have about just one month to go to a doctor to resolve the problem. After 3 months, you will be at risk. You should take a responsible approach and tell the truth to your parent. May be your parent can understand you and your difficult situation. Good Luck.
2007-12-19 13:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Super Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would take another test and see what the results are. Whether it's positive or negative you need to go to your doctor to find out what's wrong. It may just be stress (it can do all sorts of things to your body). If you are, then sit down with your parents and discuss what they would like to do. I think that you are making a very wise choice, letting them adopt if you are. Good luck, honey.
2007-12-19 12:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by hthrschrdr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that a father has a right to be a part of his child's life if he would be a good father but you have to do what you feel is best for your child, and if adoption is what you feel is in the best interest of your baby then that is what you should do. at least if your parents adopt your baby you will still get to be a part of his or her life. you have to do what you feel is right and what you think is best for your child. i would suggest not making any decision yet, think about the situation from every possible angle, you may change your mind about adoption after you feel your baby move and kick and after you hold him/her for the first time. talk with your parents about your options and let them help you through everything. having a child at a young age is difficult (i was 17 when i had my son) but if you do decide to raise your child yourself you can do it. what ever decision that you make will be the right decision as long as you do what you think is best for your child. good luck.
2007-12-19 12:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do turn out pregnant, i would let your parents adopt her/him. It would probably be best for the baby to be raised by someone who old enough and has enough money to raise a child.
You can tell you bf about what you are thinking about doing, and don't tell him control the whole situation
good luck
2007-12-19 12:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar position and i decided to tell the father.. umm it hasn't worked out at all. he has tried filing for custody of him all the time. if you think your parents will be ok with adopting and there is no chance that you will see the "father" while you are pregnant i think its best if you don't tell him but you should really talk to your parents and see what they say. and also go to a doctor so you can now for sure before you make any major decisions. if you are just stressing over if you are pregnant or not that may be the reason you haven't gotten your period
2007-12-19 12:05:41 · answer #11 · answered by melissa r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋