child support?

Question

i pay child support , i look at it as my half to support the children. isnt my ex equally responcible to put in other half?

ppl in the answers ive seen are saying shes keeping roof over their head ? i am keeping roof over their head , she hasnt worked in years, they are in school all day

thanks gary

thank you rein, at least someone realises what it is really like

Answer 1

This is a huge problem in our society in my opinion.....men are expected to pay, however they have no rights really involving the children. The scales of justice have become unbalanced. You can do what we did with my husbands ex....she refused to work full time, therefore she voluntarily impoverished herself, child support calculations were revisited using her potential to earn income. I learned this by reading the laws myself, a lawyer never mentioned this to me. Yes the mother has financial responsibility as well. It is hard to find an attorney who is well versed in this matter. I suggest that you go to www.glennsacks.com and send him and email in the search for an attorney section. He will answer you. He is very big in the fathers rights movement. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Other things come into play here in considering what the custodian parent pays, such as time spent doing things for and with the child,cooking meals, laundry, etc. The biggest problem I have is the system needs to make sure the support money is going to the child exactly and not somewhere else other than the child (accountability of the custodian parent) so dad isnt paying big bucks to help support mom. So in all fairness though,mom does definitely put in her fair share if you look at whats all involved with kids. By the way most states are forcing moms to be accountable of where the support money actually goes.They are now issuing credit cards to the moms with the bills going to the collection agancy with the childs name on it. Our legal system isnt always fair especially when it comes to child support but its working on it. Happy Holidays

Answer 3

Lets thing about it when a man has the children the mother has to pay child support been there done that so you can't say that its unfair but she should try getting a part time job if the kids are in school all day there's no excuse for that.

Answer 4

Sounds wonderful your children have both their parents. They need you both so don't worry about frivolous things.
As long as you are paying your half, spending time with the children, going to their activities then the kids will know you care and they will know what momma does so don't let frustration over your ex's finances cause you problems it really is her problem not yours.

Answer 5

Child support is a bunch of BS. If she's choosing to raise them, it's her problem. She should get a job, earn a paycheck, and support the life she's chosen.

Women have all the choices when it comes to kids. She should be paying 100%, not 50.

Answer 6

not if she's the one who is making sure the roof is over their head, the meals are cooked, the clothes and food bought, gas to get them to school functions and doctors.

The child support is suppose to be used to help insure those things are being met. Your not there to clean the house do the laundry, but up with them when their sick, or running them all over. And the custodial parent isn't getting paid to do it either.

Answer 7

No, not always, besides you need to think in a different way, like, you want to help your child, you want to help as much as you can, that IS your child right ? anyway, it depends on who has custody of the child or who has the child most of the time.
Let me tell you something, I went through all that crap my self
with 3 children, it took me 22years to pay off my child support, I let it laps and boy howdy did that f--king DA come after me, let me tell you !!!! they don't leave much for you to survive on !! so don't worry about the other half, your going to perdy much pay dearly for it . I wish you the best of luck and stay on top of it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 8

Yes they r..... If they're not then ur children r being cheated. Its they're responsibility just as much as it is ur's. U didn't make them by urself, u don't have to support them by urself. If they're not paying support for their child or children then u should run not walk down to social services and file a petition for non support. U owe it to ur kids and so do they!

Answer 9

MY GOD SHE IS PUTTING IN THE OTHER HALF EVEN IF IT ISN'T IN MONEY FORM, who in the devil do you thinks takes care of them for the most part, who does their homework with them, and i could go on and on, get a grip, you know if you think about it about how much more she does that doesn't involve money, do you realize that a stay at home mom has the equivalent of 2 1/2 full time jobs.

dale t

Answer 10

If she has them she prob. is time, if she is a good parent that is. Also if the kids live with her i would assume that she is paying the bills for the house she lives in (i.e water, electric, food ect.).