i met this guy about 2 months ago we only hang out on weekends but talk on the phone often he is 22 and im 26 , he also he has a 2 year old son from a previous realtionship i didnt want to catch feeling but i did, the problem is when i tell him i wanna be wit him he ignores me and back off tellin me he wants to take things slow, when i show i dont care he calls and text more im lookin for a serious realtionship i dont know know what to do coz i have feelings for him ..last sat was the first time we had sex and i asked him wat he want from me, his response was ' i have potential to be wit him in the future but he wants to take things slow' wat shoud i do?? im sure he's gonna wanna see me this wekend..
2007-12-19 10:52:24 · 14 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My advise is to dump him. He has already told you he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship. You say you are. He comes with baggage in that he has a 2 year old son from a previous relationship. Maybe he still has feelings for his son's mother. I think he is just using you for sex and is just stringing you along to keep that coming. Make a clean break. You deserve better than this guy.
2007-12-19 11:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he really does want to take things slow. He doesn't want the pressure of a full on relationship yet and he has a child to think of also.
Let him do the calling and if I was in your situation then I wouldn't tell him anymore that you want to be with him. He knows what you want. You have made it clear to him. Date him. There is plenty of time to get serious when you have to later. Have fun with him. See him this weekend. Not all relationships have to be serious from the start. It's only been 2 months so far and if you do want a future with him then I wouldn't push him into anything before he is ready.
I would ask him what he is expecting though. I wouldn't just hang on his every word and put up with this if he is seeing other women as well. Tell him you are happy to take things slowly but don't want to see anyone else (if you don't) and was wondering what his plans were in regard to seeing other people. Try to communicate to him that you don't want to pressure him into anything but want to know that you aren't wasting your time either. If you are serious about getting serious, let him know what you expect from the relationship but that you are willing to wait for him to be ready.
If he tells you he doesn't know if he wants to see other people as well as you or not then tread carefully. That would tell me that he is not looking for a serious girlfriend but someone to have a bit of fun with and the chances of him turning into anything more serious could be slim.
Good luck with your relationship. I hope you find your answer soon!
2007-12-19 11:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something sounds fishy here. He may still be attached to his sons mom or hes on the rebound and sure what he really wants. Take a page from his playbook and take it slow and be careful,watching for any telltale signs that signal you to get out and quick. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-19 11:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's full of crap! He just wanted to have sex with someone and you fit! He is telling you he wants to go slowly but rushing to have sex is the exact opposite of that! You fell for his line and he made you a booty call. If you are looking for a serious relationship you need to stop being so easy.
2007-12-19 11:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a son from a previous relationship, he's probably taking it slow and making sure he doesn't get into a similar situation with another woman (you). I'd assume that he's testing the waters and making sure that you two would work out for the best. (And not just for the two of you, but for his son too)
2007-12-19 11:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by soatenor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From your description it sounds like you want to go to the next level but he wants more time. Obviously he is taking time because he still has not made up his mind.
I will tell you what I think you should do!
You should ask yourself how much you are willing to wait to go to the next level. I think the answer will depend on how much you desire him. Once you have the answer let him know how much time he has. If the time expires before he makes up his mind, please move on. In my opinion it is not worth your time.
2007-12-19 11:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by liberating spirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things slow.. but if the realtionship doesn't progress in a few months then it might be time to tell him to stop playing mind games with you and to leave you alone.. SB
2007-12-19 10:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone your own age to start. Guys are way inmature at that age. Besides, your young dont take life so seriously. There are lots of fish in the sea!
2007-12-19 10:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Shell 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's not ready for a relationship! You just have to make up your mind if you are willing to wait on his time table, I mean he's willing to take what you offer but not ready to commit himself to at least trying for a relationship with you... can you be that patient, is it worth your precious time to wait for him to grow up?
2007-12-19 10:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not looking for anything serious, hun. He wants to have fun, get laid and not worry about the rest. If you're looking for a real relationship, you're wasting your time.
2007-12-19 10:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋