Is anyone else grieving a loss this Christmas?

Question

My mom died in February, and the closer it gets to Christmas, the more I'm missing her. Odd, since I didn't have the greatest relationship with her...
What are you doing to cope/celebrate your loved one's life?

Answer 1

Strangely most members of my family have died in December and my children do not understand my unavoidable reasons and I grasp to this month to think over my past.
My mother died on December 23rd my grandmother on December 16th, my grandpa on December the 8th , my best uncles was killed on December 31st in circumstances never clarified, my loved aunt died last November 29th , less than a month.. of course not all of the members of my family have died on this month, my father died on a sad July.
As you can see, I understand your solitude, I really do not like this month but my children (I say children even if they are grownups because they are still my children, one is 19 and the other one is 27) try their best to bring me out of this but it is not easy at all. In my case I used to adore and be beloved by my parents and relatives… I guess that is worst

Thank you for asking a topic I care for, there are many suggestions contributors here are sending that I will try to put them into practice to turn to a new way to see things from today on.

Something else, may God let us know in the future that our lives have changed positively to the joy of those who keep on alive and think of us.

I hope you let this aside and have a better future though the ones you have loved do not be with you anymore.

Answer 2

My Grandma just past away in September. I think my mom is having a harder time then anyone she was the one that took care of her everyday. Thanksgiving was a little depressing I know Christmas is going to be even harder. I just try to remember all the fun things we did together and I know she lived a full and satisfying life.

Answer 3

I'm very sorry about the death of your mother. I'm sure this must be very hard for you. I don't have as drastic of a loss to deal with but it was a pretty big one. On December 1, a dear old man died. He went to my church and he would always give me hugs and he and his wife would send me cards for the different holidays. I was so sad when he died, he had a stroke. So it will be tough, but I went to his funeral and sent his wife a card.

Answer 4

Starfall, it sounds like you have some unfinished business with your mom. Close your eyes tonight in bed and tell her all the things you want to say and believe me she will hear them and if you listen very hard you can hear her tell you the things she wanted you to know.

I am sorry for your loss sweetie

Merry Christmas

Answer 5

my mom died in ''94 and my sister in '05. i still miss them everyday. it gets easier with time. my step sis died last month. we weren't close but her family is grieving terribly this year. i am sorry for the loss of your mother and your sadness. i guess it doesn't really matter what kind of relationship we have with our families, they're still family. merry christmas.

Answer 6

i don't know why, but around the holidays people start to miss their loved ones that have died a little more... even if they didn't die in the season

i try to put it in the back of my mind while all the comotion of christmas comes around, but christmas night when i'm sitting there trting to fall asleep i cry

Answer 7

Write a letter to her- It helps get the emotions out. Try smiling- if she saw how hurt you were- she would not want that!!! Always keep her in your heart and keep your head up. Merry Christmas

Answer 8

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost a brother-in-law when he was quite young - only 40. The passage of time strangely does help. Also prayer, my friend. I wish and hope all the best for you.