Are my feelings normal?

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Link explains situation. After all that and really trying to just be over it i cant seem to stop thinking about it. Is it normal to still want to run back and be with her even after what she did. I know i should just be over it because its completly wrong what she did to me and i understand that, it really hurt.. its just i still dont understand why she would do that to me and i feel maybe, just maybe she will change and not hurt me again. despite that at the same time i feel if she really loved me she wouldnt have done that to me.. especially after the past few years we have been together we havnt had many problems. I miss her but think maybe its just going to take time and i will realize eventually that it is not in my best interest to be with her..I guess my question is, is it normal to want to run back and try again?

Answer 1

Yes, it's normal. You were with her for a long time. The feelings are all still there. Whatever you decide, just take your time. Look inside yourself and see if you really want to take her back, or if it is only the old feelings you have for her talking. If she's sincere about wanting to come back, and she truly loves you, then she'll understand that she must earn back your trust. Good luck, and I hope that it all works out...

Answer 2

I think it is pretty normal. You did have a relationship for a long time with this girl and I imagine after that much time together that you loved her and probably still do.

If you do want to go back and are sure this is what you want, perhaps you could get some counseling together. I imagine from the time she left you, that she had already known the guy she went to and left you to try out a relationship with him that obviously didn't work for one reason or another. Perhaps it didn't work because after a while being with him wasn't like it was with you. Perhaps she thought the grass would be greener on the other side of the fence and she got the harsh reality when she went there.
She could be really sorry about having done that to you and has realized her mistake but ultimately you need to work out what you want. If you still want to be with her then is it worth giving it another shot? Could you handle the heartbreak if she were to leave you like that again?

I wish you the strength to do what you feel you must, be it giving her the benefit of the doubt or severing ties with her and moving on. Best of luck!

Answer 3

In a situation similar to yours, I felt the same way! I don't know if it makes it "normal", but I think it's natural and understandable; 5 years is a long time, it's so hard to uproot your whole life and start again. My ex left after 3.5 years of marriage (5 years together) to be with someone else; completely out of the blue. I thought our relationship was good. I was pretty shook up; if he had come back within the first few months, I most likely would have given him another chance. But (thankfully) he didn't come back, and now - 7 years later - I'm much better off without him, it's clear as day. It certainly wasn't as clear back then; my whole life seemed to crumble to dust right before my eyes. But it's all in the past now, I am re-married, and wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 4

Your question begs the question: What is "normal"? In MY books, there is no such thing. But even if there were, what would THAT have to do with your dilemma?

Nobody on this website or anywhere else can define so-called "normal" behavior. It is NOT universal. In other words, many things and people considered quite Normal here in the trendy USofA, are held in ridicule in more civilized countries, such as the UK (not Scotland), France, Italy, the Netherlands, Cuba, Russia, Greenland, and parts of Germany and Australia.

Now I've forgotten your Question! Oh yes, all about Rejection. Well, my rule of thumb is to walk, not run, and try again. If she slaps you down one more time, I'd say it's time to look for another.

Answer 5

Its perfectly normal. Everyone has they're own weird fetish. Mine for example is hot moms and teachers. I had a friend who wore sunglasses all the time and her fetish was to have the guy *** all over her classes while she wore em. So spanking fetishes are normal. Just so long as your partner is okay. Ofcourse don't go and ask her. Spank her a couple times and if she gets turned off and doesn't like it you know to stop. Anyways. Don't worry, its completely normal to have a fetish. I mean 2 girls 1 cup could be considered a fetish to the girls in the video... Don't feel supressed by ur fetish. You gota please yourself every now and then right. That's just how your mind thinks. Some peoples fetishes come and go so in the future you might have a fetish for gimp suits. Who knows...

Answer 6

Your feeling are perfectly normal. Remember "cheating" in not necessarily the end of the world even though it may seem that way at the time. In more cases than anyone ever knows about the affair is over, then it,s over for good, and afterward the couple form a even closer attachment than the previous one.

Answer 7

It is normal to feel the way you do. You can't just fall out of love with someone. It will take some time but you will get over it. Remember it is better to have loved and lost than to had never loved at all.

Answer 8

Hey Mike, your feelings are perfectly normal. You two have been together for a while now. Personally, after all that she
confessed to you and, asked for your forgiveness. I would
give her another chance but, IF she does it again then I'd show her the door. You can get through this, it's your choice.

Answer 9

hell yea its normal! you loved her... every one in the world has feelings you cant help that even after she did something wrong you still want to be with her, and maybe she disrespected you for doing what she did but that doesnt mean she doesnt love you. You can give her another try if you feel in your MIND and heart that its worth another try....ok sweetie good luck..... [e-mail] i also have a page on blnk if you have one you can hit me up

Answer 10

i think that your feelings are very much normal, you spent a long time with her, but as you said it is probably not in your best interest to do so.