My mother remarried a man who at the time of their courtship, was working full time & contributing 50/50 to the bills.
She worked as well full time.
They have no kids & no mutual financial accounts/purchases.
I think it's fraud because he finished his degree 2 months after they married, and has NEVER looked for a job to use it for OVER A YEAR.
He's not even a good stay at home house husband!
MOM has to do ALL the cleaning & cooking, etc...Totally NOT FAIR!
She's building resentment day by day, and I keep warning him to shape up, but apparently it's not changing his freeloading ways.
Stepdad just moans about how "There are no jobs, I can't use my degree, All I do is get picked on, etc" Bla Bla Bla!
BTW this is in FL.... What should she do?
PS- He would never consider marriage therapy.
2007-12-19 10:17:57 · 6 answers · asked by beanieelizabeth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks guys!
The house is in her name, and so are all her accounts/car, etc. I know she didn't pay for his school (THANK god!)....But will she have to pay alimony if they get divorced?
2007-12-19 10:45:12 · update #1
Florida is a no fault divorce state, and hopefully the home is in your mom's name if not, if theres a divorce he will get half. now would be the perfect time to unload this freeloader man before he racks up some bills on her.
2007-12-19 10:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in what you described suggests fraud. Not looking for and/or not finding a job that uses your degree isn't illegal. It's not considered (legally) misleading the other person to believe something that isn't true. He's lazy; that's it. I believe that in order to claim fraud, the marriage has to be based in part on something that one party allowed the other to believe knowing full well it's not true. Simply put, a man and a women get married based on the fact that they are both heterosexual but the guy is actually gay and intentionally keeps it from the woman. I don't know if this example is actually considered fraud but it was the first thing that came to mind (don't ask me why).
I noticed a couple of responses saying that Florida has no fault divorce just like we have in California. If things are really that bad, your mom can file for divorce and just check the box for "irreconcilable differences" or whatever the equivalent is in Florida.
2007-12-19 10:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by QT_Pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no fraud here. I am not an attorney, but a paralegal. What you have here is a dead beat. Your only recourse is just to have your Mother leave, and she should be reimbursed if she helped pay for the education, or she could ask for reimbursement.
Her situation is pretty cut and dry, the courts will probably spilt any property/debt and it will be called a wash. Try asking for money, if she supported him or paid while he attended school, as mentioned above. Good Luck.
2007-12-19 10:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by allie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not fraud, not even close. More like being just plain ole lazy and letting her support him. Agree with not being fair but theres not much that can be done about it. She just has to figure out whether shes better off with or without him
2007-12-19 10:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to flip hamburgers at McDonalds while looking for a job. If he doesn't do something kick his butt out.
2007-12-19 10:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by bjsuno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should get a divorce or an annulment SOON
2007-12-19 10:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋