I have a friend and he likes me but he knows i have a bf the thing is that he came to my college and he came an visited me and well hes like how u been well i was in the car with him we catched up with things and out of the blue he kissed me and well i pushed him an i told him why i have a bf and hes like i like you and you know that. So now i feel bad because i dont feel comfortable because i havent told my bf and i just feel like a mess my question to you is do i or do i not tell my boyfriend that my friend kissed me? Do you think it is the right thing to do or not?
2007-12-19 10:05:14 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you don't have to tell your boyfriend because you'll just make a big deal out of nothing. You did the right thing by pushing him away.
2007-12-19 10:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think if your boyfriend had a friend who liked him and she kissed him. Would you want to know if he kissed her back or if he pushed her away...? And just think if he found out from someone else what would he think...? He would probably think that you kissed your friend back and that you liked it because you are keeping it from him. I think it would be best if you told him because if he found out some how it would start a big fight...He would be happier if you told him. He might be upset at first but just ask him if you would of rather had you not tell him...?
Hope that helped. : )
2007-12-19 10:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell him cause if he finds out by himself it will be double trouble... if u are interested in the other person then u should explain to ur bf that u need to explore this before u can continue with where u are at. And if u dont tell him then u could end breaking up.. and that doesnt seem worth it, for something harmless...
2007-12-19 10:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sienna g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that your friend tried and you told him no...but telling him he kissed you could be dangerous
I once worked in a comedy club and was waiting on the comedian on stage...he asked for tequila shot after shot...at one point I went on stage to give him his shot and he said "hey hon give me a kiss on the cheek" I didn't know what to do and felt like I was on the spot in front of eveyrone. So I went to kiss him on the cheek...well he turned his head and kissed me on the mouth. Well I backed up and called him a jerk and walked off the staged....Of course, I was the hometown girl and everyone knew me and that I was engaged...so they boooed him.
I went home and told my fiance...who immediately got mad at me because he said I shouldn't have kissed him at all...not even on the cheek.
That nut got so pissed about it and was so mad at me that he wouldn't talk to me for three days...at one point I came home and the yellow pages were open on the table to Uhaul trailers. He was going to move out and go back home.
Well I let him have it. I told him that if I had been raped going out to my car would he leave me then too? I told him it wasn't my fault and I didn't intend on kissing him at all. And everyone that was there tried to tell him he was stupid.
Finally a friend at work that has known me all my life told him he was being ridiculous and that if he left me because of something so stupid, he (my friend) was going to head over to the house the next day and do his best to console me and try to become my fiance.
Needless to say he came home and apologized, explained that he was a hot headed Puerto Rican (no excuse), and he did love me and was just so jealous that another guy touched me that he couldn't take it. We made up and laugh about it today...it has now been 16 years and we have a great family. Thank God someone got through his thick skull, but it was just by chance that he spoke to someone that he respected about it.
2007-12-19 10:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is the best policy I hope if I ever have a relesionship and this subject came up we would laugh at it and I would give them a big hug for telling me the truth but allot of people or not that secure about them self or the releasionship so it depends on how that person you didn't do anything wrong but they might take it that way so ...if your concience is eating ate you tell
2007-12-19 10:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by saveitok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he might find out then be honest. If you had no part in the kiss then he invaded your space. If you feel bad about it then you should get it off of your conscience. If someone kissed my GF and she told me, I would know I had nothing to worry about because she confided in me and I would know that nothing would come of it. I was honest to my GF when I did something wrong, she was angry at first but my crying proved that I was sincerely sorry for it. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-12-19 10:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him. If it didn't mean anything then you should have no problem telling him. If you don't tell him, and he somehow finds out, then it looks like you were hiding something. I was in the same situation not too long ago, and I told my fiance. He was more upset that I didn't tell him as soon as it happened. He was also upset with the guy, who was a good friend, but he was pretty upset that I hid it from him.
2007-12-19 10:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by I'm a Fanpire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the guys know each other?
The right thing to do is tell your bf.
BUT... the easy thing to do is not tell him. If you want to continue to keep your friendship with your male friend, then you can not tell your bf, because if you ever try to hang out with him again, there will be an issue. You have to decide what is important to you, before you tell him.
2007-12-19 10:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how you want your relationship with your bf to end up.
if you feel guilty but your still kind of ify about if your bfs that special guy.... dont tell him.
if you feel like he should everything that goes on in your life... (except for like little secrets like you used his toothbrush last tuesday er something) then tell him! Just mention that you pushed away and rejected him. If he is right for you, he'll understand!
Good luck, and seem calm, because its all okay! It happens to EVERYONE! Be patient for him to say something, because he mmight be in mental shock! but dont worry, if you guys loose your ways, somehow... even though hes drifting away, he'll always be right there!
2007-12-19 10:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt becuz you have ben knowng your friend 4 a long time rite . so did you know that he liked u, if not then u you guys are close right so i think what you had told him about your bf he should respect that and move on but if he trys again then you have the right to tell ya bf
2007-12-19 10:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by sarge_led 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋