Ok so my husband has problems with his temper and I don't know what to do. I got in a car accident about 6 months ago and haven't been able to work since then. He has a good job but we have more bills then we can pay. He has told me that I don't have to get a job yet and I even tried to a few times and he told me NO! I was not to get a job yet and to wait until after Christmas. His temper gets the best of him most of the time. I don't do anything wrong I clean the house and cook for him everyday. I'm trying to get a job now. I went a few days ago and filled out 3 job applications and I have a appointment with a lady to help me get a job tomorrow but for the past few days he's been really angry with me. He wakes up and starts yelling. He calls me names and makes me feel like I'm worthless. I cant take it anymore I cant stand crying all the time. Getting mad fun of ridculed and called worthless, pathetic, whore, *****, lazy, fat, slobb. I'm so confused.
2007-12-19 10:04:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is taking his insecurities out on you. It makes him feel powerful. It will just get worse. Unless/until he acknowledges he is like that and he wants to change he will just get worse. This is how it begins for all those women eventually killed in an accidental rage by an out of control man. I lived like that a long time. It took me a long time to accept a better life. I had to work on feeling like I deserved it. If you don't get a job and get out you will begin to accept the names he calls you and you will get weaker. If he keeps you from getting a job he has control of you. If you go to work note if he harrasses you at work, calls to often etc. He could be trying to get you fired or make your working to hard a hassle. Stay positive and get a plan for getting out of this abusive relationship.
2007-12-19 10:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you are better than this! Noone, has the right to treat another human being this way.
I will say, have you ever talked to him or, heard from family members, something which would have created all the anger he bears? There is a reason for this anger and he really needs help. I do not think the anger is about YOU! It is simply being displaced upon you! That is wrong but, can be corrected, if he is willing.
I am so sorry, I feel your pain and I know this has to be very confusing to you, as you stated! However, I want you to know that I will pray for God to intervene in your situation. I pray God will open his eyes to the fact that he does have anger issues....which hopefully, will result in changes. May God's will be done for the good of all involved.
Please e-mail me if you need too,
gail
2007-12-19 10:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be treated like that, plain and simple. Having said that, I think maybe he's letting the stress of your situation get the better of him. He probably didn't want you to go back to work too soon so you would have a good recovery from your accident. Bills piling up is a big stress on a marriage, and unfortunately a lot of people, like your hubby, don't know how to handle the stress or express how they feel. You should talk to a counselor or mediator, someone who can get you both talking about your situation and ways to work through it. It could be just what you need. Don't lose hope!
2007-12-19 10:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by WordNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is classified as verbalabus and no one should ever have to put up with it nowadays. If youre ready to get out, contact your local womens help group and explain your situation to them and they should help you.Follow their instructions which will probably include getting a protective restraining order against him and get ready to move on with your life. Also notify the authorities the next time he goes into one of his rages. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-19 10:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a bully, plain and simple. You must stand up to him and tell him you wont tolerate his childish outbursts anymore. If he won't listen then move out to a friend's or family's home. If he doesn't sit up and take notice then, he never will.
I wish you a speedy recovery and good luck tomorrow.
2007-12-19 10:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Might be time to get a job and look to move on. You (anyone) doesnt deserve to be talked to like that.
2007-12-19 10:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Dad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling he sounds abusive -get a job asap and get out of there-you deserve better!
2007-12-19 10:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to a marriage counselar,nobody deserves that type of treatment
2007-12-19 10:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by AJEMT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and done that. it won't get better unless you make it better for yourself...i wish you the best...blessings and luck to you
2007-12-19 10:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by starting over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋