sometimes i feel like having another woman on the side because of my sex life. me and my wife dont have sex like we use too. she dont let me do the things i love to do to her anymore is that normal
2007-12-19 09:36:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To fantasize about sex of almost all kinds is normal. To want to have sex with more than one woman is as common or normal as can be. Trouble usually comes when a person tries to go behind a partner's back. Try to ask your partner why she does not seem as interested in sex as she used to be. With the various STDs ranging the country, it would be a mistake to go off and risk letting over excitement cause you to make a fatal mistake. In the final analysis you may have to both see some kind of psychologist. If she will not go it may be best for you to go alone to seek ways to deal with this difficult situation.
2007-12-19 09:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by John A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to start fantasizing about other women if you sex life has become boring or less frequent. The best thing to do is talk to your wife and say you would like to spice things up a bit and you can figure out together what both of you would like to try to achieve that. Going outside the marriage is absolutely not the answer!
2007-12-19 17:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's totally normal and the fact you are asking means you are a decent guy. it's OK to be flirtatious but don't take any plunges - definitely not worth putting your marriage on the line like that. You and your wife can get intimacy back (it's always there, just sometimes it's dormant) - try flirting with her first before anyone else.
2007-12-19 17:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Maria M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it normal? Yes. Is it the best way to handle your problem? No. You need to talk with your wife. Don't go making choices that will destroy everything you've built thus far. Talk with your wife. If you are not happy, and there is no fixing it, respect her enough to end the marriage before you go cheating on her. Allow her the dignity of moving on first.
2007-12-19 17:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by ☆ Spharoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out first. See if she is getting what she needs. Therapy is a good idea. Maybe you need to take better care of yourself. If all this fails, tell her you're going outside the marriage. Be safe, don't give her a disease, but life is too short to spend with someone with whom you are sexually incompatible.
2007-12-19 17:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to your wife or going to see a sex therapist together instead of being a pig and tempting yourself to see the easy way out. If you love her, cheating is not an option and more frequent self masturbation is!
2007-12-19 17:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sometimes women have dry spells but please don't go and cheat on her that's not the answer, try talking to her and see whats going on...see if theres anything new she'd like to try...and if all else fails then let her know that the no sex situation is a no go for you and you need to let go somehow...BE HONEST!
2007-12-19 17:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by PETEPUMA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal-maybe she's tired-try helping out around the house more and maybe she will come around
2007-12-19 17:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal, and dont you dare get another woman, if youre prepared to loose your wife go ahead otherwise dont!
2007-12-19 17:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It perfectly normal to think of having our needs meet.
If a spouse isn't willing to help us out then it will open the door for someone else.
2007-12-19 17:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋