I have always had self esteem issues but generally consider myself an upbeat person. I'm always laughing & smiling & for the most part enjoy life. I was never really a pretty girl growing up. My little sister on the other hand is so beautiful, she should be a model. My mom & dad are always saying "look how pretty L****** is?" They still do this & I'm 25, she's 20. When I was a kid I was very skinny and just awkward looking. It didn't help that my dad tried to cut my hair when I was 11 which left me to get a bowl cut I had til I was 13. I met my husband when I was 15 & he's always told me I'm beautiful. We've been married for 10 yrs & he tells me every day how pretty or beautiful I am & how much he loves me but I just don't feel it. I get my hair done regularly, take care of myself (wax my eyebrows, get my nails done) & try to update my wardrobe but nothing seems to work. Any suggestions?
2007-12-19 08:51:36 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
haha sorry! we got married when I was 20. We've been dating for 10 years, not married that long!!!!
2007-12-19 09:04:26 · update #1
From everything you said, you reminded me so much of my husband and myself! Believe me, when your husband tells you...you are beautiful....you can believe him.
It sounds like you do have a self esteem problem and you should work on that in addition to your beauty regime. Start some daily affirmations and tell yourself that you are pretty and really allow yourself to believe it. Your core belief is that you are not and you need to change that core belief. I bet you are just as pretty as your sister. If not, prettier.... It really sounds like mom & dad has given you some baggage and that's sad.
You know, I don't remember my parents ever telling me I was beautiful or even pretty. Not once.... But my husband has told me almost everyday for 30 years. God...I love him. When I'm sitting there talking about how bad I look, he tells me I'm wrong.
2007-12-19 09:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You choose not to see your beauty....Those that see your beauty choose to out of love for you as a person, you too must look at you with loving eyes........
Seek counseling, or learn to accept who you are looks and all. I had those same issues as a child. My sister is so adorable and still to this day. She is 3 years younger than I am. I was a late bloomer and unfortunately i'm still waiting to fully develope...At any rate we were always compared to, because she was the voluptuos one and I was the awkward one thin and frail. I realized much later in life that I had not accepted myself. I tried everything I could to gain confidence with my looks but after having developed cancer I learned how selfish I had become in my days chasing physical beauty, when I was beautiful all along. Beauty does not stem from what we view in the mirror, but by the person i've become. I may get told all the time i'm beautiful or I may not but my days no longer depend on what others say or don't say....I know i'm beautiful even when i'm not pretty every day.
What would I have been left with in my old age had I not devolped cancer that brought about my self confidence?
I have ensured that as I age I may age gracefully knowing that beauty really does stem from within.....And that there is beauty in others as well.
2007-12-19 09:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by spiritbodynsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep thinking your not pretty, you will never see it. What you should do is keep telling yourself your pretty inside your head, even if you don't believe just repeat the words in your head "I am pretty" or "I must look so fine right now!"
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2007-12-19 09:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by selena 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it can be to beat self-esteem issues. I went thru this with my parents too as well as an ex-husband who every day told me how imperfect I was. I now have a husband like yours. He thinks I'm beautiful even when I don't see it or believe it. The only advice I can offer is to listen to your husband more and your parents less. I know you hear your husband say you're beautiful....but actively listen to him -- take it to heart, because he's right. When your parents say something about your sister, just tune them out and remind yourself of something sweet your husband said to you earlier that day or the day before. You might catch yourself smiling like I often do. This helps me. I hope it helps you too.
2007-12-19 09:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by surojabu 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From what it sounds like you seem to have a pretty decent base. Btw, men always think the woman they love is beautiful, cause to them that woman is. If you think you need to change your appearence, hire an image consultant(basically they help people give themselves makeovers and maintain them professionally so they are really good at this). They will help you find a look that works for you and the right colors for you. The following site has a search tool on it to find one near you. I recommend using one from this site because they are certified by a professional organization. It will cost you a bit of money in the short run, but the long term savings in clothing and the increase in self confidence is worth it.
2007-12-19 09:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by bolinger81380 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you sound like you're very pretty!! You have what every girl dreams of having - a husband who loves you and tells you that you're beautiful. You don't need to compare yourself with your sister,she might envy you because does she have a strong relationship like yours? Be confident and have some self-esteem. I think you're very lucky!
2007-12-19 08:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by no-name 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 22:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder . . . if your husband thinks you're attractive who cares about anything else?!
Don't you think there is enough cheating out there because people think the grass is greener elsewhere?
Be content -you have something good -sheesh!
Oh,, and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-19 08:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Bob T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget the beauty elements....first you need to be happy with yourself. You will know that you have achieved this when you put on sweatpants and a tank and think you look your best!
2007-12-19 08:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If other people think you're beautiful, don't worry about it!
I'm a model, and I STILL don't think I'm good looking, despite MANY women ( and even gay guys ) saying that I am.
2007-12-19 08:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tony^^ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋