my husband left to work at 9 am he said he got 24 hours duty in base so he left wearing his uniform so i woke up and i couldnt find his new sneakers or his good jeans he took em why in the world would he take them and last night he was playing with his phone and hiding it from me i dont know what to do now he should be here tomorrow morning i dont know what to do should i call him and ask him or text him ? p/s he did cheat on my before what do u think i should do?
2007-12-19 08:19:27 · 20 answers · asked by baby #2 due Jan 17th 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he always take things with him but when he workout and he takes the old clothes not the good once
2007-12-19 08:21:33 · update #1
Well, you already stated he has a history of cheating on you.
But for him to take his good clothes for duty????
Maybe bedroom duty, with someone else that lives off base.
Here are a few signs of a cheating louse;
*secretive with cell phone and all calls (however, you do have access to the bills)
*secretive with wallet
*wants to do their laundry separate of yours
*starts random arguments just to leave the house
*becomes physically and emotionally distant from you
*talks about a new "friend" they met at work and really hit it off
*compares you to other females
the way you dress
your clothing
your hair and make up
your physical appearance (weight issues)
your education (or lack of it)
2007-12-19 08:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater, I hope it is not the case but I bet he was doing something other than setting up a nice christmas surprise, call the base and see if he is on duty, that is what I would do, don't call his phone then he will know somethings up and figure out a good lie, been there done that with my now ex not happening again
2007-12-19 08:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was a 24 hour shift in which he would have to be in uniform the entire time then yes i would be very suspicious and call him to make sure nothing is going on. dont text..if he is with someone else that will make it easier for him to lie to her and hide the fact that he is texting his wife back. also, you wont be able to hear any background noise that could give him away. normally i wouldnt advise jumping to conclusions but since you say he has cheated in the past i would be def have my eye on him. call him and let me know how it turns out!!
2007-12-19 08:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely shady.
Once a cheater always a cheater; sounds like he's up to something. Call him to confront him! If he doesn't pick up that goes to show you that something definitely could be going on. And, when you're married there should be NO reason to hide text messages, phone calls or anything.. if a marriage is completely honest it will work out. Your husband lacks honesty and is unable to commit, it seems.
2007-12-19 08:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 05:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by melaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand you should trust your instincts, but...
You are going to need real, solid evidence before you go accusing him.
Put on your detective hat and find out the truth.
Besides, maybe he is just being sly about obtaining your Christmas present.
Take a look at that glass again, maybe it is really half full and not half empty.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-19 08:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a mighty big conclusion to jump to based on taking some extra clothing. I'd say don't call but keep your eyes open.
2007-12-19 08:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried callinghis work to ask when his breaks are and when you can call him.. that might be an idea and then when you find out that he isn't at work then you can start asking all the tough questions like. why he lied to you and why did he take his good clothes
2007-12-19 08:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry hun but he is acting shady. Maybe you have to get your detective work going and make sure that he is not playing you for a fool again. Good luck .
2007-12-19 08:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the positive and be glad you have a man that provides for you. Your mind can play tricks on you and it will drive you crazy. The Holidays are here and it should be happy times.
2007-12-19 08:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Billy Voltaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋