I don't get it. What's so wrong with it? I'm ok with sharing. Open relationships are cool with me too. If a guy cheets on me I say no problem. I'm just kind of like... "So why'd you even hide it? I don't mind!" Now someone tell me why they have such a problem with it.
2007-12-19 08:12:18 · 35 answers · asked by Your Drag Queen Mother 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Some folks can't help themselves. Cheating is like a drug to them.
2007-12-19 08:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by ►solo 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Because there is this thing called "the emotional bank account."
A healthy relationship between friends, kids and parents or lovers relies on mutual respect and trust. Ideally, you would both be making the same amount of deposits into this account, no one would be overdrawn (cheating) and no one would ever think about ensuring the deposits are equal to the love you share.
Once someone cashes out by cheating the entire investment in the relationship went bankrupt. That is why people have a problem with cheating.
Me, I like how Tegan and Sara summed it up on The Con:
"I'm not unfaithful but I'll stray." You can look but not touch. This credo only applies to a serious relationship. Serious meaning you would sacrifice everything you have for the other; including your life. Romance still exists in monogamy.
Your question deserves honorable mention because everything these days is built on temptation. A moment of weakness could lead to a lifetime of regret.
2007-12-20 17:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by freeyourmind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a problem with cheating because if i make a commitment i stick with it and its not fair that the other person doesn't hold up there end of the deal. when you are in a relationship that is monogamous it can get dull and boring and rocky...whatever the situation...this is usually when someone ends up cheating and this is not fair! i went through this and did not think it was fair because i too would have loved to have gone out and boosted my ego by getting close to someone else but i didn't because i made a commitment not to. so that's why i have a problem with, monogamy is boring and it would feel great to cheat (at least while it is happening) but its unfair to the other person
2007-12-19 08:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's ridiculous. it obviously shows a lack of commitment, which is the point of a relationship. what's the point of "dedicating" yourself to someone if you aren't even going to do that?
think about it. if you really really love someone then you find out that they actually love someone else, it hurts. so don't do it if you're serious about a relationship.
it's fine if both individuals consent to having an open relationship, but that isn't considered "cheating."
come on, think about it, cheating is just such a negative word. there sure as hell isn't anything good about it.
2007-12-19 08:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's an open relationship it's not really cheating, is it? Cheating is done behind someone's back with the hopes of them never finding out. You sound like a doormat with no self-esteem to be honest. Oh and let me know how your open relationship works out when you actually fall in love with someone. These sorts of things only work for those who are unable to emotionally connect with another person.
2007-12-19 08:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The biggest issue is the risk of STD's that multiple sex partners can bring.
How can you be sure they were protected ot better yet that the other party is safe?
And this maybe cool for a while, but when stronger feelings start to grow you will not be so open to sharing your partner.
We all want security and trust if my partner has to go out to find this then why stay with me.
2007-12-19 08:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by ♥PirplePashn♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK as i was young, i did not have such problem , i found it OK with sharing open relationships but one day you will realize that you need the feeling of having someone for you, just for you, you belong to him and he belongs to you NOT for everyone.
i hope you could remember my words once this day comes.
2007-12-19 08:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is breaking a verbal or written contract. My husband promised me he would be with only me. So if he did someone else, he's breaking his word. If you have an understanding with someone about having an open relationship, than that's not really cheating, is it? Cheating is breaking a promise and I have a problem with someone breaking ANY kind of promise.
2007-12-19 08:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If the relationship is exclusive then I think it's wrong. If at the strating of a relationship both of you state that you want it to be open then I could careless and don't consider it cheating.
2007-12-19 08:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think relationships are more than sex. You invest emotions, time, with others and by cheating they lie to you. It's depreciating, you look like a foul. And your partner will not have consideration with you as before. You are in a messy relationship and end up hurt.
2007-12-19 08:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Theta40 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because it wrong, if u love someone and u r with them then u r suppose to be with them and them only. and if u could honestly cheat on the one u r with them im sorry that is so far from love it isnt funny! when i give my heart away i expect that person to keep it for themselves and i would do the same, not go sleep with another, if thats the case then eveidently I wouldnt have there heart. o and my advice is if u r with someone and absolutely know u r gonna cheat, end it with them first and be honest, its not like it would mean anything to u in that case anyways!!
2007-12-19 08:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by *TiNkSteR <3's *him* 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋