How Long must I wait for him to pop the question?

Question

I have been dating the love of my life for over 2 years now. He wants me to move in with him but I want him to pop the question first! How long must I wait? We have talked about it many times before and we both want to get married but he tends to procrastinate. How do I give him that push that he needs?

Answer 1

Start looking for places and show him some of the ones you really like. That will get the conversation started.

OR, take him to the jeweler and say I WANT THIS ONE.

Answer 2

Don't move in with him, unless you know he is going to marry you. I lived with a guy for 2 1/2 years and he never popped the question. I don't think he ever intended on it either. I guess he figured, why buy the cow when I'm getting the milk for free. If he's not sure if he wants to now, how do you know he will be sure after you move in together. You are better of waiting.

Answer 3

Do you want life with him or do you want to get married?
Do not move in with him, even when you get engaged. You will never get maried. Believe it.
YOU both want to get married, but he procrastinates? I bet he wouldn't fool around if he was buying NASCAR tickets or giving his mother a tour of Yosemite. He'd get right on it.
Men are famous for doing exactly what they want to do.
He is doing exactly what he wants. Believe it! He is being passive and getting exactly what he wants. If he told you the truth, which is I don't HAVE to get married to have what I want, so why should I--you would be pissed and hurt and leave. Right?
He has a gf who loves him, will listen to any bs as an excuse to stay single and will do what he wants,even if it is not in her best interests. He has hit the jackpot.
here is what you do:
You say: I love you, I think we make a good team, I want to live with you forever. I think you feel the same way. Tell me if I am wrong.
If he says yes, you say, Great! I deserve to be married. I want to get on with the rest of my life. I think it is time. I want to have babies with you. You deserve the same thing.
If he says no, say: I am not wasting another second with you. See ya.
If he says we will someday: YOU say: How about January 10, 2008? (give him 2 weeks notice-no more)
When Jan 10 comes and goes, say, it's been great, but I am going to go find someone who won't play me for a fool. I thought YOU were that guy. YOu are not.
If he goes along with it, tell him you have 2 weeks to throw a wedding and he has to help. Haul out your wedding box, and go through it with him. Tell him you don't need a big wedding, you need a marriage, and you can have a big reception instead.
Then, all your family and set up a wedding in your mother's house, and have a reception at a local club.
Done.
If you don't do this, you will end up 40 years old with a great boyfriend who is going to get around to marrying you one day.
If you do this, and he bails out on you, aren't you glad you are still young enough to go find mr. ready to get married.
Nothing gained without risk-go for it.

Answer 4

this is an easy one...do not move in with him because he is getting all the benefits of being married ! why would he ever pop the question? and it's not how long must you wait...it's how long are you willing to wait? you never said how old you are, and please don't push anyone into something so serious, if he is not ready and you are, you have to make a decision, if your willing to wait and see what happens, or take a break, just remember everything happens for a reason.

Answer 5

How can you be sure he wants to get married? If you move in, he may start using the old "the marriage license is just a piece of paper" routine. Until he asks and sets a date in stone, I'd keep my own place. I would say, "no, I want to stay in my own place until I'm married. I understand that you may not want to get married and that's fine but I'm not willing to wait any longer before I move in that direction. So I'm going to move on with my life and find someone who wants the same things for their life as I want. " At this point, you'll get some indication of what he really has in mind by the response you get. If he still has draggy feet, you can add:
"......so, I need to be free to move on and of course you need to be free for what you want too, so I won't have any contact with you after this evening. I won't take calls or messages unless, at some point, you are ready to get married and then you can contact me. If I'm still free and IF I'm interested, we can discuss it. But for now, I'm asking you to leave. Bye."
THE SOUND OF DOOR CLOSING!!

Answer 6

I was in the same situation you are in right now, last week. We had a big fight about it and what not...We've also been together almost 2 1/2 years. Just tell him straight up your tired of waiting and your ready to take your relationship to the next level before you move in together. I said that and just found the ring yesterday..oops! Good luck though!

Answer 7

You can't make him do it. Just don't move in with him or I can assure you, he will never ask you to marry him. I dated a man like this for 5 years and I did move in with him and it didn't last but one more year and he never proposed even though he promised me we were going to get married.

Answer 8

If you move in with him, then there is no reason to marry, because he will be getting the benefits of marriage from you anyway. If I were you I would wait till getting married and then move in together as husband and wife. If he loves you then your request should not be a problem to him. If he refuses then you'll know that his intention were pure selfish.

Answer 9

Don't move in he will never ask wait till he pops the question if your in love and no problem wait what is the rush.
If you are over 30 and want kids then wait one more year.

Answer 10

You can never rush a man into doing something you that hes not ready for.. But if he wants you to move in with him then he should be ready for a stronger commitment. Dont let him continue to get the milk for free.