In a previous question I explained that the mother of my 2yr old and fiancé of 5 years said our relationship was over. She said it's possible to get back together someday, but that she mite date others in the meantime. It devastated me.
I've taken the mindset that I "don't need her", "won't call her", & "won't tell her I love her". I want to show her that I can stand tall/strong, but I don't want her to think that I can easily get over her, or that I'm giving up on us. I'll never give up, and I get the feeling that she's testing me.
Today she stopped by my office to pickup something and we talked for a few minutes. She stared into my eyes with a curious-concerned look and continued to as I walked away. Only yesterday she said it was over(at least for now). I don't know what to think of it.
Any suggestions how I should act around or speak to her?
2007-12-19 08:06:44 · 6 answers · asked by siforek 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been together for 5 years, engaged for under 2. I don't want to see anyone else, and I'd be afraid that seeing me with someone else would push her to hook up with another guy.
2007-12-19 08:14:52 · update #1
She was your fiance for 5 years?!
Get on your knees boy and beg for forgiveness!
Merry Christmas
2007-12-19 08:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she ever say why it's over? Why have you been engaged for so very long? If you love her and want to be with her then you need to tell her straight up... I love you, I want us to work, what is this all about? I'm thinking it is because she wants to be married and your not moving fast enough? Not sure what the cause is for the break-up. Bottom line is you should ALWAYS be honest with yourself and your significant other. When we try to play games to see what works it never works out in the end and after all why should we have to play games? In other words don't play like something you do not feel. Don't fake like you don't want her to show her that you are strong. Be yourself all of the time. You can tell her that you are going to date others too and then really do just to get out and experience other things. The whole thing is kind of baffling, she says "it's over" when people say that it's for a reason something like you've out grown each other or one can't take it anymore or something like that but to say "it's over" means just that, there's no going back but for her to turn around and say it's possible for us to get back together someday? She is pretty selfish to try to have her cake and eat it too. You should go out and meet someone who will truly appreciate you as you are without having to change who you are. She should not be allowed to test you in this manner but you know her better than I. Blessings with that.
2007-12-19 16:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the heck is taking you so long to marry her? You either propose to this woman and get marry her or you let her move on to someone that wants a long term relationship. She is probably tired of waiting around for you to marry her. You are wrong for having her baby and also stringing her along.
2007-12-19 16:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her, but that you will not be played for a fool. She needs to figure out what she wants, you shouldn't have to wait forever.
2007-12-19 16:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by blueeyes_unever_4get 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE SAYS ITS OVER THEN U SHOULD JUST LET IT BE. WOMEN LIKE STRONG GUYS THAT ACT LIKE THEY DONT GIVE A ****. WHEN SHE SEES U WITH ANOTHER GIRL THEN SHE WILL BE BACK IN YOUR ARMS . BUT IF U CRY AND SHE KNOWS U ARE DYING OVER HER THEN SHE WILL BE MORE OF A *****. TRUST ME.. IM A GIRL AND WE ARE ALL THE SAME. WE LIKE MEN THAT ARE CHALLENGES.
2007-12-19 16:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by Roselyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a really hot date and make her feel jealous.
2007-12-19 16:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by tiffinynb93 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋