...our sexual histories with each other. Although she wasn't crazy to hear about mine, I answered all of her questions. When I aksed her about her past boyfriends I got extremely aroused hearing about her experiences. Why would this be? Shouldn't I be somewhat self-conscious about it?
2007-12-19 08:01:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
self conscious oh no there is nothing wrong in your response .you love your wife and it turns you on to hear about her being aroused . good for you!!
2007-12-19 08:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Misty j 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
However you feel is how you should feel. Don't be misled into thinking there is a certain way you should feel about things from watching how others feel, or by judging how others would feel.
Aside from that if you find it arousing then that's really great. Maybe you could re-create some (or even better yet you could try to "beat" their experiences by being more outrageous) and make some new memories of your own together. Sexual adventurousness is never a bad thing in a marriage, so long as it stays between just the two of you (ie threesomes are never going to solidify your vows).
It could also be that you like the idea of your wife having sex with other men, in which case you have a fetish and I'm not touching that one! (lol, no offense)
2007-12-19 16:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by princessdemeesa2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I understand why it aroused you. Just thinking about what she and I did before she met you still arouses me too.
Let her know it excites you. Maybe encourage her to "make more up" if she runs out of tales. As a married man for 13 years, whatever gets the topic from "take out the garbage" to "take me to bed"!
2007-12-20 09:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Paula Jones said, "No!"
Monica Lewinsky said, "Yes!"
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2007-12-19 16:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont see anything wrong with that. I have asked my husband all about his history even though it made me a little eh I still wanted to know everything. He did not really want to know anything about mine but I did tel him what he wanted to know. I sure as hell wish I could not get all pissed about that stuff. We are married and I still get a bit eh if I think about it and he gets eh if he thinks about my past. So I would not think anything of it. As long as your not wanting to do reenactments or get her exs in the picture I think you are fine.
2007-12-19 16:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Showers 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is good that you are both open about your sexual past. My husband and I also told each other our sexual past and I believe this has made our relationship stronger.
2007-12-19 16:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by hubasket 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many, many things for a married couple to discuss. Past sexual history is not one of them.
2007-12-19 16:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Same reason men like porn...with the added bonus of your sexy (I'm assuming) wife being part of the picture. Just don't tell her that her sex stories with her ex turn you on. She might find it a little creepy. BTW kudos on being so honest about such an uncomfortable subject :)
2007-12-19 16:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It arouses you to hear about your wife having relations with other men? Ugh. I think that you shouldn't get angry with her or jealous about her past but being aroused by it...I don't think so.
2007-12-19 16:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
No...considering you guys are married. Just accept the arousal
2007-12-19 16:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋