My youngest bonus daughter is multiply disabled and wears a scoliosis brace (my hubby has physical custody and he and her mom have joint legal). Her bio mom has repeatedly admitted to not putting the brace on her like she is supposed to. However, she only has her one day a week (her choice) and overnight just a few nights a year. Daughter’s ortho said that one day a week wouldn't make that big of a difference so in the interest of peace we haven't made a big deal out of it. Here's the problem: She's having scoliosis surgery in May to correct her curve and after the surgery she HAS to wear her brace (a few months) and this time there could be major problems if she doesn't. Bio mom has a LONG history of ignoring doctors, us and everyone else that "tells" her what to do with her child. We are really afraid she will not use the brace like she should.
2007-12-19
07:53:59
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We wanted to see if we could get supervised visits during the time daughter has to wear brace but our lawyer says that won't happen in our state. The most the judge will do is tell her she has to put the brace on her. By the time we find out she’s not using the brace, the ramifications to our daughter could be severe. I know you’re going to say talk to her, and of course we will…we just know it will most likely do no good. We are contemplating not letting daughter go over there during the time she has to wear the brace. We will tell bio mom she can come here 2x a week (more than she sees her now) until daughter no longer has to wear the brace. What do you think. We will probably get a slap on the wrist if she takes him to court….but the alternative is our daughter being harmed and possibly having to have surgery again.
2007-12-19
07:54:15 ·
update #1
Cajun-all I know is the neuro-surgeon says she has to wear it and it is vital. Yes she is getting rods and a fusion
Butterfly-That's a good suggestion but she'll just atke the brace off as soon as she gets her to her house, like she does now
2007-12-19
08:15:29 ·
update #2