2007-12-19 07:52:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Because if you are so intent on finding love.. what you find may not really be love, you just want it to be... better to let it find you... You find it when you aren't looking.
2007-12-19 07:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by pea_nut_26 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Frankly, if it is going to happen, it will. I have seen the singles night venues in my town and the sight of all the desperado's was embarrassing - I was dragged along by a friend but I swore I would never go again. My friend did meet someone that night, but he didn't ask her out or anything - she happened to bump into him at another venue on New Years eve, and she latched onto him so he couldn't get away this time, lol!!
I must say though that the idea that everyone has to have someone and you have to go out looking is just foolishness. We are conditioned by the media to believe that anyone who lives alone and does not have a significant other is somehow sad and pathetic, but that need not be the case. I have no partner, being long since divorced, and I have no intention of ever acquiring another - I can do what I want when I want and am happy that way. I like to pursue my interests and travel, and do not feel any regret at my "lack of love".
2007-12-19 17:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because love will find you when you least expect it.
When you are looking for love you begin to feel desperate. Then you start to look desperate. When you don't seem to be seeing positive results after a short time you will start to feel depressed or unattractive. And the only people who go after desperate, unattractive feeling people are the slimeballs who will use and abuse you because they know you are desperate and use that to their advantage.
So, work first on being happy with yourself, just being yourself and not looking for love from anyone but yourself. Then, love will come to you in the form of a nice person who also loves themself.
2007-12-19 16:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by luv_my_rats 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Because it makes you appear desperate. A definite turn off. Also because you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. It is best to just look for friends and roll with the flow
2007-12-20 01:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When seeking love you are being needy and will settle for much less than the great ultimate love you deserve. The real deal will just evolve and you'll be involved effortessly.
2007-12-19 16:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't know about the masses but when I was looking and quit looking is when love showed up.
2007-12-19 15:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by lilabner 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Love is one of those things that finds you. It seems the harder you look for it, the more elusive it becomes. When you accept your life the way it is and are receptive (not desperate), it's likely to find you. At least that's been my experience.
2007-12-19 15:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
"Look n' for love in the wrong places" is more prevalent. Too many do, and the outcome is crushing.
2007-12-19 19:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Snoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some look for it so hard they forget what is right in front on them and they miss there chance for it.
2007-12-19 15:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by datsleather 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It will find you if you don't look too hard.
2007-12-19 20:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋