i met this guy about 2 months ago we only hang out on weekends but talk on the phone often he is 22 and im 26 , he also he has a 2 year old son from a previous realtionship i didnt want to caatch feeling but i did, the problem is wen i tell him i wanna be wit him he ignores me and back off tellin me he wants to take things slow, when i show i dont care he calls and text more im lookin for a serious realtionship i dont know know wat to do coz i have feelings for him ..last sat was the first time we had sex and i asked him wat he want from me, his response was ' i have potential to be wit him in the future but he wants to take things slow' wat shoud i do?? im sure he's gonna wanna see me this wekend..
2007-12-19 07:44:27 · 11 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummmm....yeah, he's not taking it slow. He's just taking it. You two had sex without the emotion. That's going to lead down a path to nowhere. He'll keep stringing you along as long as he's tapping that booty. Just walk away now, if he wants to "take it slow" he shouldn't have bedded you. You need to go look for someone that wants a long term relationship and get away from the user.
2007-12-19 08:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said he has a son? It sounds like he wants to take things slow because he cares about his kid, and is scared that both of you will get attached an you'll leave. If he's treating you like garbage then you shouldn't let him, but i would suggest you not have sex with him until you're BOTH completely sure you're ready. Tell him how you feel.
2007-12-19 15:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by MJ B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have "needs".
Take it slow with no expectations and pressure and see how it goes. Get to know him over time and see if he's really "Mister Right", or simply "Mister Right-now". Be smart and don't get pregnant, and have some fun. Be a fun person who isn't pressuring him into a "relationship" and you might be surprised how much he wants to be with you.
Merry Christmas!
ps Guys like lot's of sex, and if it's good sex, so do women!
Don't settle for a guy with a small dick either.
2007-12-19 15:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The guy is scared of getting you preg. He is not ready for a serious relationship. If you want to be with him, take it slow.
2007-12-19 15:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Net Advisor™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple--the chase is important to men-----u can tell by his actions--he backs off when u pursue him but chases you around when u back off--if u really want this relationship---let him chase u--make up mystery plans so u dont see him----it will drive him nuts----just try this when he tex u today tell him hi i am out right now i will tex u tomorow and see what happens---or if he invites you somewhere tell him u already have plans but be vague as to what they are----trust me he will be all yours----
2007-12-19 16:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by sean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's there to be confused about? He says he wants to take it slowly. If you can't take the heat, get out the kitchen.
2007-12-19 15:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wait around for him then do so, if not, find someone else who is ready for a relationship!
2007-12-19 15:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lv Dr. 4U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is still with his sons mother.... why is it only a weekend thing? Don't give it up to fast!
2007-12-19 16:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by flmba1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop having sex with him. You're being used like a condom.
2007-12-19 15:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth how u feel for him
2007-12-19 15:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sagar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋