Do you believe counseling can truly save a failing/unfaithful marriage?

Question

If so, please explain and/or provide examples of couples that successfully worked through their problems

Answer 1

i think that it can, but only if both people are willing to try. counseling is not a cure-all. it's not some magic pill that you can take and everything will right itself as soon as you walk through the door. the only thing that counseling does is give you direction and a way to help yourselves. it's a lot of hard work, but it can work.

Answer 2

Marriage counseling can indeed sometimes perform a miracle and save a troubling marriage from the halls of hell, but only if both parties are wanting the same outcome and both enter counseling volutarily and with an open heart and mind and willing to do whatever it takes to achieve their desired outcome. I have saved marriages stemming from all sorts of challenges but unfaithful marriages with broken vows/trust are the hardest to save

Answer 3

Well, I am proof of that situation. My DH had an affair for a year and a half. I just found out in October. He ended it the day he told me. We both went to individual counseling and then we are going to start marriage counseling when we are ready. Our relationship is stronger and happier due to the fact. Rembember it takes time and patience though. Try the Yahoo Group www.healing_after_ adultery@ yahoogroups. com
The person who started this group has gone through the same thing and gives wonderful advice.

Answer 4

Yes, I do. It happened to me. My husband had a "friend" at work, and we were miserable. We went to counseling, for about 8 months. I learned a lot during this time, about myself, about him, and about marriage in general. This happened over 7 years ago. We continue to use the things that we learned during counseling to improve our marriage. I learned "how" to be the wife my husband needed, and I loved him so, I changed the ways that I did things. My husband learned be more open and how to talk to me. It's not easy, and you both have to work hard, and at times you have to force yourself to do the things the counselor is telling you to do. But I am living proof that things can get better with counseling. By the way, we used a minister for our marriage counseling. Good luck.

Answer 5

Is it possible, of course it is. But the two people have to be committed to going to counseling and committed in making it work.
My only example is I want to go but my wife does not. That sends a huge signal to me that she doesn't want this to work. So, I'm walking.
I really wish the best for you and your situation. Hang in there and good luck.

Answer 6

Yes it can work. It worked for my husband and I regarding our marriage, but I still feel that I need individual counselling to get over his affair, I just cannot afford it, and the waiting lists are ridiculously long.

You both need to be commited though and need to talk everything through.

Answer 7

Only if they were both unfaithful the one who was faithful will always feel cheated and the one who cheated will never feel the pain and so things will never be on a equal playing field never!..

Answer 8

Honestly, it depends on the couple. For some it works, but for others it doesn't.

Answer 9

It depends upon the people and the counsellor. I have not had luck with it. The one time we worked out a problem we did it ourselves. The other times and with other people it was a waste of money and time.

Answer 10

It takes commitment to make a relationship work.

"It takes two to tango."