SAHM~ How often do you get away?

Question

How ofter do you get away and what do you do?
Do you still do most the work once your husband gets off work?

I get Monday from 9-2 to go to the gym and mess around.
Also Thursdays from 4-6 to go to the gym.

Answer 1

I am a SAHM to a 2 month old girl. This hasn't been challenging at all so far. My husband works M-Th. So on Fri and Sat nights, he takes night duty for me so I can sleep in. He also lets me leave by myself if I have any errands to run. I've even stayed out over night at friends' houses 3 different times while he watched her at home alone. I work from home, so my days feel REALLY busy. My husband is a huge help when he gets home. I give him an hour or so to unwind, but then he helps out 50/50 with me until he goes to bed. If she's wet, he may change her, I may change her... if she's hungry, he may feed her, I may feed her. It doesn't feel like a battle though b/c if I ask, he'll do without complaint. And a lot of times he offers on his own.

Now I'm thinking when we have #2 in 18 months or so (if all goes as planned) that it will become more difficult.

Answer 2

Hardly ever do I get away exept for when I work in the evenings. It's part time and I love it. So a few days a week at the end of the day. My son is 15mo old and I recently decided to put him in daycare for 2 part time days a week so I can get a consistant break (plus take on more work) and he can get socialization with other kids that he deperately needs and have some fun! I've been home with him since he was born and have no family around, I've never had anybody else but me or his daddy watch him. I feel this decision will benefit both me and my son in a big way. It's something we both need because it's becoming un-healthy for both of us to be the only ones for eachother and to constantly be around eachother. I love my son and I'm glad that I've been home with him and still will, I'm just going to make it more positive for the both of us. And no, I don't do most of the work when he comes home because it's a trade off.

Answer 3

Ah...thanks for the laugh!

Honestly, I think you're lucky. That's not to say that I begrudge you, or that anyone should, or that there aren't SAHM's who take more (even significantly more) time "off" or for themselves than you do. I'm just saying, it's a good chunk, particularly the five hour stretch on Mondays. Enjoy it, it's a great thing if you can get it!

I'm a SAHM to twins who will be two next month. I do get some time when I'm not directly caring from them, although nothing very structured or very long -- I have great help around the house, and I'm able to do some errands in the home, or run a quick errand in the neighborhood, and leave the kids under her care for brief periods or when they're napping, every now and again. For the most part though, I'm IT, and so my time "off" is relegated to those times when they are napping -- which, of course, is time "off" only insofar as I'm not actively engaged with them, but it's not like I can leave the house or get out in the world by myself during that time.

My husband usually gets home when the kids are already in bed, either asleep or I'm in the process of bedtime. Sometimes he steps in at that point and finishes up "bedtime," and gets to visit with them, while I clean up from their dinner, etc. Sometimes he gets home when bedtime is done, or almost done, and I am still the one -- usually -- who cleans up from their dinner, etc. Sometime between when we met, and now, my husband developed an aversion to cleaning the kitchen and washing dishes, it seems. But he will pick up the kids play area if it hasn't been done yet. But while that kind of housework usually is done by me, he does a lot of other things around the house in the evenings, and it's not as if he just sits in front of the television. He's usually paying bills, or dealing with some home improvement thing, or something along those lines.

In all fairness to my husband: I take a quick shower in the morning, while he is the one who gets up the children and dresses them (in clothes I lay out the night before). We all leave together in the morning, me and the kids taking a "walk" in the stroller and walking my husband to the metro, and my husband is very involved in the lengthy and often frustrating ballet of putting both children in their winter coats, hats, etc. and getting them in the stroller and out the door. He's very involved. Just, you know, not nearly as much as I am!

Answer 4

I usually get most of Thursday to myself. My three - year - old is in preschool for a few hours on Tuesday and Thursday. Hubby also likes to "steal" or son for a few hours to go do guy stuff, like look at airplanes on the base or go to Home Depot =)
We usually go out and do something as a family every other Friday, but on the alternate Friday, my husband and I go out alone. So that's about 3 hours on Tuesday, 5 hours on Thursday, and one evening every other week. That's a LOT more than I got before my son started part - time preschool in September. Before that, I rarely got any time off. So hang in there moms, it gets easier!
Oh, but Baby #2 will be here in August, so I get to start all over again!

Answer 5

You're very lucky. I still do everything once he gets off work because he's "Tired from working all day", even on the weekends I can't get him to get up early when the baby wakes up so I can sleep. The only time I really go anywhere without the baby is to run to the store real quick. Other than that, I'm with him 24/7.

Answer 6

I usually get away once a week or so. It just depends.

When my hubby gets home though, he is alot of help. I don't ask because I know he worked all day, but he'll help me clean, take care of my son while I go shopping or whatever.

He also gets up on Saturday mornings and lets me sleep in so thats nice.

My mom also takes my son like every other weekend so my hubby and I can go out alone.

Answer 7

I'm with my baby boy most of the day. His daddy helps a lot when he is home and tells me I can go shopping or do whatever I want, but I prefer to stay with my baby :)
I enjoy taking my son shopping with me or running errands.
He used to just sleep in the car but now he's getting a little older (a whopping 5 months! :) and actually enjoys taking in the scenery. He stays awake in the car and seems to be paying attention while I shop. He's my little companion.
I love having him with me.
I have a wonderful husband who loves hanging out with him too, so neither of us really get 'away' from the baby.
We still haven't left him with a babysitter, and I'm quite happy with that :)

Answer 8

My parents take my daughter on Wednesdays (thus the reason I can be online right now)

Yes, I still do most of the work around the house. When he gets home he gets in front of the TV, or plays Guitar Hero (which thankfully my 15 month old loves to hear him play)

Answer 9

Wow I wish I could get away. I can't even go to the grocery store with out the baby even when my husband is home, and when he gets off work I make him change at least 2 diapers and have him get his dinner ready, other than that I don't get breaks.

Answer 10

I went to the grocery to pick up a bag we forgot 20 minutes earlier last night. Thats probably the 3rd time in 11 months I've been alone. It took me a grand total of 30 minutes.

I dont know what to do with myself when my son isnt with me. lol. I dont like to be away from him, my alone time is usually spent on here while he's napping. Writing my novel or answering peoples questions.