my friend is very very down and feels very low at the moment. i really don't know what to do to help her, because she has a few problems that i can do nothing to help her with. i feel its out of my control but i want to make her feel better so much. i always talk to her and tell her i love her, she has so many amazing friends but....what can i do? please help. x
2007-12-19 06:54:36 · 12 answers · asked by bluebird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's lucky that she has a friend like you!
All you can do is be there for her - make sure she knows it.
Perhaps suggest she call the samaritans or similar if she feels she can't discuss things with her closest friends . No offence to you, but sometimes people feel its better to talk to a stranger.....
2007-12-19 06:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Raha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is very lucky to have such a caring friend like you. She probably knows that.
If there is nothing you can do, then there is nothing you can do.
You show her your love, you are there for her, you want very much to help ... you can't do more unless she lets you.
Just give her space and time; but let her know you will always be there for her, if she needs you.
You can never allow yourself to feel responsible for another person's happiness, no matter how much you want to cheer them up.
For now, do just that, find little ways to cheer her up. A bit of extra attention without mentioning her sadness; a small token of affection ... let her know you are there, but not pushing her.
She is hurting you too, by shutting you out like this.
If she continues to refuse your support, you need to tell her how you hurt too.
I think you both can get through this.
Please don't worry too much. You have done all you can.
Once again, she is lucky to have you.
Hope it works out.
2007-12-19 07:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by kiteeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be their for her. We all have problems and you seem to really feel them worse at christmas. You could remind her just how much better off than others she is. Look how many peoples lives are cut short in their youth from diseases,accidents etc. Young children left with no father/mother.I had a cancer scare earlier in the year l have five children two of them are only three and l was worried sick l would die and leave them motherless. I even started a book for my daughter. When l got the all clear it gave me a whold new outlook on life.Tell your friend to look around.She has friends for a start who love her. Life is never that bad.
2007-12-19 07:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, friends like you are hard to find. Just being there for her to cry on your shoulder is helping the most! Just be there for her. The the most anyone can do. Try telling her that if she thinks she has problems, there are always people out there with way worse things they are going through. Someone elses life is 10 times harder.
2007-12-19 07:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by redrose2427 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw dats reli kl how you care for your friend.
Give her hugs,and say i feel be there for you!
and small things that use to make her happy before this problems like eg my friend loves to write and i gave her a Journal notebook for x-mas.......
anything like that shes interested in or doesnt even have to be material stuff.
you can invite her shopping or a trip to the cinema!
if its major news tell her to talk to her schools councellor or call a help line......
2007-12-19 07:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-25 01:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by marget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind her of the person she is when times are good..encourage her to do the things she does during happy times...buy her a feel good cd, make her a journal..don't give up
good luck
2007-12-19 07:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by fchyenne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"by still being her friend" without you she may get worse keep doing what you are doing and encourage her to think positive thought ,....good luck ...merry xmas
2007-12-19 07:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by burnsider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't specify what her problems are, so I'm afraid I can't really help you.
2007-12-19 07:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop been soft and tell her to harden the fek up. the more you pitty someone the more you get them down. one life stop moaning your way through it
2007-12-19 06:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by ghandi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋