Wife withholding child?

Question

Im 22 and she 23, for the last 3 days my wife has cut off complete contact from me. She has not let me see my child or even said that she is ok since Monday. She has not returned any phone calls, any text, and when i come to her house nobody answers the door. The last time i went i heard my daughter playing with toys but nobody answered. Even the local police came because somebofy reported that i might be breaking into the house.This all stem from a disagreement we had because i didnt want to pay extra child support for daycare because she lost her job and couldnt make the half payments so she wanted me to pay the whole bill and i couldnt do it. So instead i offered to watch my daughter for the days that i needed to pay extra. She refuses saying that my daughter couldnt spend the night. My daughter is18monthsand is happy to see me. that it wou But her mother says im suspicious like I abused my kid or will abduct her when i have done neithe

So she changed her mind last minute about me watching my daughter and her going to work. She instead said that she will stay home and watch my kid instead. therefore she didnt want me to pick her up anymore. After this i never heard from her again. We are still married andseperated but not legally yet. I have been trying to get her to sign an seperation agreement but she refuses saying that she sign it when she wants to. i have been getting the run around and hard time everr since we broke up two months ago

Answer 1

Contact the court that arranged your child support and custody agreement for further advice. If your wife is violating the custody agreement then they would be the ones to force her to comply.

Why is the baby in daycare if your wife lost her job? Wouldn't she be able to care for the baby herself? Talk to social services or the court about this in a calm and reasonable fashion and see what can be worked out. Your wife needs to be reminded that it's not fair to the baby to be denied seeing her father.

Answer 2

Your married, so once you have your child in your house file for divorce. You will have a better shot at getting the kid. If not and she files, you will see your child maybe every other weekend. An that is if she open the door to give you your child.

The feminist have campaigned for 40 years for equal rights in the work place. Men don't have Equal right in the home. She can run off with another man, or live on welfare(State) then if you don't pay support throw you in jail for not paying for her child care, child support. That is why men should educate themselves ablut women right in the home. Unless you can get some kind of an agreement up front. Because the law written way back in 40's 50's for women. Times have change. Get involve in father rights in the home. The laws need changed, Educate your sons, daughters on the issues. Call you Senators. Good luck and educate all men if you can. I know most men don't think about this until it is to late. They think there wife needs them for survival. Your Frist Amendment right that everyone is creatied equal is for women in the family court system.
Go for 50/50 but fight for full custody. Good luck man!!!! Only in America is the guy being push out of his native role and acting like a metroman.

Answer 3

I guess if it is your x wife and you have already gotten the visitation order to have her then you need to file a complaint withe the local foc in your area. If you are still married and living apart and have not yet already filed for the divorce you need to get that started and get the courts involved.
Trust me they can work wonders with the right call, She can not justify withholding her just because you are not paying... they are two separte issues even though many think otherwise. There has to be a valid visitation order for the law to uphold anything though, explain to her that if she wants things to be hard they can be.. and if she wants to be that way then you are gonna file a report and she could be held in "Contempt of Court" there is a hefty fine that comes with that and maybe even jail time if the offence is serious enough.If nothing less it will give you make up time for the time that you have already missed with her and give you a leg up if this ever happens again in the future.

Answer 4

Unfortunately you will have to bring this to court. My husband is going through the same thing with our other son.
She legally can not have you pay more child support if child support has already been court ordered. You legally have rights to the child as does every parent. If you have already been through the legal process, all you have to do is call the police to be able to see your child, she legally CANNOT keep her from you. It will be a messy ordeal, one that your daughter will not remember if she is young, but it will show that you are putting your foot down.
Her mother has NOTHING to do with the situation at all and her opinions mean nothing in a court of law.
I hope you know that in most states (if you have not been through the legal process yet) that the state favors the mother.
I'd call a lawyer.

Answer 5

Since youre not legally seperated with any kind of papers nor in a divorce proceeding there is very little the legalsystem can do for you other than you two working it amongst yourselves here. Unless the childis being abused or in some kind of danger the police wont help either. So until theres some kind of temporary papers (for seperation) from the courts, spelling out temp details covering everything, you two will have to put up with this. Unfortunately, this is what sometime happens with a seperation with no court documents. Sorry

Answer 6

You may want to call social serives yourself if you are worried about your child and that it is left alone ( no answering the door). And you may just want to file for divorce with custody of the child. Your wife can not withhold the child from you, but without a legal agreement, you have no dicourse. If you ring the doorbell repeatedly and dont get an aswer and you hear your child in there, call the police to check that the kid is not in there alone.

Answer 7

You need a lawyer, unfortunately there is nothing that you can do right now. The local police obviously aren't helping you either. If they documented the time they were called to the house because they thought you were breaking in then you can use that as evidence of her witholding your child from you and use that to support your case for custody.

Please go for joint- so many fathers sign the custody over to the mom and then complain that they don't ever see their children and have to pay so much in child support- don't be one of them.

Answer 8

ok.. if the court did not order you to pay child support.. and there are no papers filed.. and you did not go to the child support agency.. in other words if your just giving her cash..check.. etc.. stop it.. go see a lawyer.. anything you give her that was not court order is a gift..GIFT.. and will not be considered as child support payment until the judge orders you do so.. so if you have been doing all this on your own. you could end up paying back pay.. even though you have paid.. see a LAWYER.. tommorrow.. try for full coustody as she has no job.. and she is acting like a spoiled brat..btw the man above me is right.. who ever files divorce papers first and coustody usally has the best shot.. that is how my sister in law.. ex got there 3 daughter.. he went for a visit.. and on the day he got them.. went down to the lawyer with them in tow

Answer 9

The women in certain situations such as this seem to think they can use the child regardless of the impact her actions will have in the long term on the child and the father. It really annoys me that fathers who want to see their children are denyed acess.Why can't you have your daughter for the extra nights?Its ridiculous. Try Families need fathers the CAB will give you their address and families for justice they help out in situations such as this where false allegations of abuse are being suggested. Good luck l hope you see her for christmas.xxxxx

Answer 10

Call your divorce mediator or your lawyer and get a restraining order so she has to follow the custody agreement. Then see if you can renegotiate something that works for everybody. Seems like she might have taken losing her job really badly and is overreacting. Try to stay reasonable and don't take it personally even if it is. Your daughter is the one who stands to get hurt in this so put her best interest before yours if you can.