Are you the kind of gay/lesbian that....?

Question

likes to force your lifestyle down other people's throats? Don't you think people are entitled to their opinion too, just like you're entitled to live the way you want?

If not, do you think think that forcing people to agree with you is wrong?

I know some people and all they talk about is themselves being gay or lesbian. It's like they're trying to tell me "I'm one so the whole world shouldbe too."

Don't get me wrong, I have a few really good lesbian friends and I have no problem accepting who they are.

Stew, I asked for an answer, NOT gay bashing!!!!

People, I am just asking a question, NOT trying to insult anyone!

Answer 1

I don't force anything on anyone. I just live my life, day-to-day, without lying about who I am. I don't have "big dyke" tattooed on my head, I don't wear rainbows, I just won't lie about anything. I WILL hold my gf's hand in public. I WILL kiss her goodbye in public. I WILL do the same little lovey-dovey things that str8 couples do. If someone thinks that's "forcing my lifestyle", that's their problem, not mine.

Answer 2

I'm not the kind of person who "forces my lifestyle down other people's throats". I am open about my sexuality in exactly the same way that the homophobic heterosexuals are open about theirs.

I agree completely that people are entitled to their opinions. If people want to be bigots and believe that homosexuality is wrong then a free society must allow them that choice. The problem is that *they* don't believe that I am entitled to live the way I want. Theirs is the *only* way.

I would never try to force people to agree with me. That's mainly because I don't really care what bigots think. What I care about about is the impact that their beliefs might have on my life. If they want to believe that homosexuality is wrong, or that I will go to hell, or whatever other nonsense, I don't care.

I care that they want to stop me from loving who I choose to love. I care that they try to deny me the same rights that everyone else has. I care that their attitude means people think I am less of a person and it's OK to physically and verbally abuse me because I'm only a deviant queer and everyone know that queers don't count.

The hypocrisy behind the message that gay people "try to force their lifestyle down other people's throats" is breath taking. This is exactly what the homophobes do by saying we are "wrong" and, by induction, they are "right". If anyone is trying to force their way of thinking on someone else, it isn't me.

Answer 3

I never understand what force my lifestyle down your throat means. I'm here, I go out into the public workforce, then go hoime to my private life, just like everyone else. I spit in the sink after brishing my teeth and so does the Queen of England. I'm no different than the next person coming around the corner.

Anyone that has a negative opinion on that deserves to be handed a ration of (insert bad word here).

Answer 4

It always makes me wonder, when people say things like "force your lifestyle down other people's throats", what exactly do you mean? Not hiding the fact that you are gay from other people to avoid making them uncomfortable? Explain it to me.

I don't force people to agree with me. I try and convince them, and if they don't go for it I really don't give a crap what they think as long as they leave me and mine alone.

Answer 5

for god's sake straight people just need to stop whining, if you are in a public space there's a good chance you will see gay people, just a fact of life, don't like it? then don't leave your house

if you know a gay person there's a good chance you will hear about gay issues, if you can't deal with that take it up with the person not the gay community

if you have a problem with gays then please remember that no one asked for your opinion in the first place. You have a right to an opinion, you don't have any right to an audience.

Answer 6

No, I don't do that because one thing I am is respectful. Other straight women do and did fear me because since I am a lesbian, they feared I would try to pick them up. I do not, and have never forced my lifestyle down their throat. I do think that it is sad that there are other lesbians pressure other straight, and sometimes married people into trying to try to be with a lesbian, and that makes us all look bad. Thank you.

Answer 7

I don't know what you mean by forcing down your throat. I expect others to respect me and treat me as an equal, and I expect to have equal rights, including the right to marry. I don't think people are entitled to their opinion if they are going to judge me, condemn me, or take away my right to life, freedom and the pursuit of happiness. Blacks fought for equal rights, so did women, and so should gays. I don't see that as forcing anything down anyone's throat.

Answer 8

Force? Down throats? Not exactly terms to use when asking gay guys a question.

To answer you - No. I would never force my beliefs/lifestyle on anyone. But on the other hand - I don't like hetrosexuals & homophobes trying to force their beliefs on me.

Answer 9

I never force anything down anyone's throat. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Even if it doesn't mesh with my opinion I still respect that you have your own opinion and don't have to agree with mine. I like to be respected in that way also.

Answer 10

One of my best friends is gay. I had a discussion with someone else about why the best friend was so worried about coming out. The other person said to me, well what if somebody found something about you, such as your religion, and said "oh, that's so _______" about it everytime they wanted to say something negative. (As in "that's so gay".) This made me think about it in a whole different light and now I realize that if you think someone is coming on strong with their lifestyle, maybe it's because they feel alot of disapproval of it.