Gents, what exactly is attractive in females according to you?

Question

Pls i request there be no vulgarity...this is a formal survey/information booster question to add to a story/article i will be writing in the near future....

What exactly in a female do you find attractive or what is it in a woman you find realy makes you wanna be with them?

PLS NOTE: if it is anything to do with physical being of a woman, so be it but please try not to make it raunchy or outrageously vulgar.

Thanks and regards.

Answer 1

#1 Characteristic ~ Personality. If she is nice and her characteristic is of good morals then I will be interested if she also has class, style that I think is compatible with mine and is well-mannered (in other words I can take her anywhere and she would know how to act properly, even in areas that would require a lot of self-discipline not to make a scene due to negativity one way or the other).

#2 Intelligence ~ She doesn't have to be a genius but someone that knows something other than the kitchen is a very good thing. Some level of street smarts and formal education is always a good thing.

#3 Preference ~ With the above factors in mind I must also stress that there are other factors that are more personal that I just want in a woman for an intimate and serious relationship.

Answer 2

Moi is never vulgar. Moi does have a potty mouth, occasionally.

Females attract me on several levels. There's the initial, physical level. Then there's the intellectual level. And one more that's hard to pin down.

Physically, I like proportion. Not necessarily skinny, but "normal" in proportion. She should be healthy from a medical perspective. Good skin is important. Not covergirl perfect, but good. Associated with that is grooming- hair combed, normal grooming. My head's on a swivel- I look at every female that passes in front of me. Lately, I find myself turned off by extremes in "personal statements" like a dozen earrings, basketball-sized tattoos, and the (for me) impractical and unimaginable body piercings. Pierced ears and a silver-dollar tattoo are OK, but pierced tongues or eyebrows or other things just scream to me, "I need to impress you with how unique and independent I am!"

Intellectually, a woman should have a mind of her own. We don't need to be congruent in every way- that would be boring. And if she has one or two areas in which she sparkles, that's a plus- Is she a good photographer? Maybe she knows a lot about tea or medieval life or the planet Saturn. She has abilities and skills in areas that make her an interesting *person,* not just woman. A downside would be too deep an interest in something- politics, vegetarianism, religion, feng-shui, or anything else that puts her life out of balance. I don't mind someone who goes to church on Sunday, but I don't care for a woman who carries a bible or continually preaches about God's love and proselytizes to me. If she can't just skip a session at the gym because her whole life revolves around exercising, that's a turn-off, too. I can't regard as "normal" people who are virulent creationists or who've been aboard Martian saucers.

The last part is hard to pin down. I know lots of nice women, but very few have something that could be generically labeled "chemistry." One I work with has plenty going for her, but seems a bit uninteresting for me. (Might be the "don't mess in your own nest" syndrome.) And lastly, I know another who has way too much going for her- looks great, smart, and is always the center of attention. I like her, but I don't want to be part of her type-A, fast-lane life.

Thanks for reading all this. FWIW, I'm looking right now, but not very diligently. My divorce has left me with the opportunity but not the inclination to seek more females. Ask again in a year or two ...