Why does everyone bash pregnant teens? Read first please.?

Question

I am a pregnant teen!
I am 17 and 5 months pregnant I live with my husband
I have been on my own since 15 and living with him He is 20 years old not really a teen He makes enough money to support us and the baby and have plenty left over. He has one more test to get a licence to add to the other he has and he can start his own heating and air business.We are not struggling to make ends meet. We dont get checks from the government I do have Medicaid because Im not old enough to go on the insurance with maternaty.MY HUSBAND PAYS TAXES TO.We only use my insurance at the doctor not medicine and such We have our own house and land that we are buying We will own our land before age 30 thats better than a lot of others Im going to college to be an Accountant and will pay out of pocket not with a check from government tax payers.
NOW why do people have such a problem with all this. I am doing better then the majority of parents that are not teens. NOT all teens are irrisponsible I know many

I got married for the same reason adults do. Because I care and love for another. But must we say Teens I mean not all teens are like that. There has to be a non offensive way to say it.

I am getting such good and nice answers from this but before I was getting harrassing e-mails. You guys know my situation but people assume when you are a teen parent that you are all these horrible things. Maybe next time someone posts a question before people jump down their throat about being pregnant and young they will ask their situation. It happens everytime I post about the baby. I get e-mails from people saying that I am a horrible Whor*e and Im not.

I am getting such good and nice answers from this but before I was getting harrassing e-mails. You guys know my situation but people assume when you are a teen parent that you are all these horrible things. Maybe next time someone posts a question before people jump down their throat about being pregnant and young they will ask their situation. It happens everytime I post about the baby. I get e-mails from people saying that I am a horrible Whor*e and Im not.

I am getting such good and nice answers from this but before I was getting harrassing e-mails. You guys know my situation but people assume when you are a teen parent that you are all these horrible things. Maybe next time someone posts a question before people jump down their throat about being pregnant and young they will ask their situation. It happens everytime I post about the baby. I get e-mails from people saying that I am a horrible Whor*e and Im not.

Sorry I hit did not mean to do that and not its not wrong for me to be married.

Answer 1

ignorance. i got pregnant at 18, i just turned 19 and am 24 weeks pregnant. My hubby makes enough for all of us. we get nothing from the government but medicaid bc I couldnt get any other insurance but his insurance will cover the baby when shes born so we wont need it. were not using wic and we have everything we need and want including an amazingly perfect relationship better then that of my parents or any older couples Ive ever seen. We both already love our baby unconditionally and she will have a better childhood then half of the kids with 30 yr old parents have. Age doesnt determine everything. people are just judgemental and assume things.

Answer 2

Great job! I was pregnant at 17 and had my own house, went to school and held a ful time job. So your right, why do teens get that name. But if you think about it the majority of teens who do get pregnant still live with their parents, drop out of school and work a min. wage job. Then you have your many who wont even work at all that live off you and me! That is why we "teen" parents get such a bad name. There is an exception for everything and yours and my story are a couple of examples. And I want to make a very good point here about getting checks from the government, I do not nor have I ever had any government assistance but there are people out there who TRUELY need it at some points in their lives! A single mom or dad for that fact may work full time but not recieve any help from the other parent and struggle to make ends meet, so what is wrong with them recieving benifits to help them get by on a short term basis until they can better provide!? Now I will say that our government is very f***** up when it comes to assistance. They will help those that arent willing to help themselves and sit at home all day living off me and you but when a responsible person whos just looking for a little help cant get ****! Good luck and congrats on the baby!

Answer 3

Experience is a huge part of life, whether you're willing to admit it or not... the longer you live, the more experience you gain, and the wiser you are. However, this is all an ideal situation. Not all people who are older are wiser. Not all people who are wiser can properly raise a child.

Some people are just ready to raise a family at a young age... you may be one of those but you are one of the very few. Most teens are not ready and are "forced" to be ready.

Generally speaking, the success rate of something that is planned is better than that of something that is unplanned... this is in all aspects of life. Most teens aren't planning to get pregnant.

You're still young. The older you get, the more you'll realize that this is true and that teen pregnancy is not the smartest path. Besides, you lose a great part of your youth by becoming pregnant early... that can't be fun... why would you want to grow up so soon when you have all the rest of your life to be an adult with responsibilities?

Answer 4

People have their reasons, their own opinions on the matter. If you are comfortable with the life you are living, ignore the negative comments and move on with your life....

I don't think I've bashed any teen parent on here. I give my honest opinions on what I feel is right on the matter. You either like it or you don't. The only teen parent I have bashed so far would be my youngest sister since I've seen first hand all the complications it has caused for herself and the rest of the family.

It's great that you know you are doing better than the majority of parents that are older than you. You may say this, but it is practically just your opinion. You're wondering why people are so rude to you, but you're doing the same thing assuming that the MAJORITY of parents that are not teens aren't doing as good as you? Sounds a bit cocky and immature. It doesn't make you immature, it's your statement that is.

Answer 5

Who has a prob with this? You sound smart enough. Besides, you're 17, which is consentual age in MOST states, this means you're almost 18, and from the sounds of it, you're already an adult. I think the problem comes in when like 13-15 yr olds come on here saying that they're pregers or whatever, that a problem arises. If you are 14, and you are already having intercourse, and you don't even have a good support system in place, therefore, you have to come to Yahoo answers for help... then you are CRAZY ! That's what we all get upset about. People like you can do what they want, it's the people that come on here crying that need to grow up, and STOP having sex until they can handle ALL possible outcomes! That is all.

Answer 6

Most people have a problem b/c you are the exception, not the rule. It's great that you are able to handle this situation on your own, I myself also moved out and became responsible for myself at a young age. However, that is not true for the vast majority of teens, and when they become pregnant, it usually becomes someone else's responsibility, not theirs. Just be glad you don't fall into this category and understand that if people judge you, it's b/c they don't know you and are assuming you are just yet another irresponsible teen....there are a lot more of them than there are the of you. good luck.

EDIT: and no, there is not a nicer way to call teen pregnancy...teen pregnancy! That's what it is....just b/c you don't fall into the norm, doesn't mean society can't call the teen pregnancy epidemic exactly what it is....that's just being unrealistic.

Answer 7

Wow i am impressed, you sound pretty amazing for everythign you've done and how you see things, thats a really good quality, and if you're happy and you love the guy then i sya do whatever comes to mind. I never looked down on pregnant teens i am a teen, i always thoguth about what it would be like to be in that situation and many teens don't have it good, so i think it sucks. Especially for those that don't expect it. but you thats pretty sweet, that you're a teen and pregnant and happy, i just think there so much to life so much to see and experience that once you have kids all that is limited and thats the sucky part.

Answer 8

Many teen mothers have asked this question and I always respond in the same way.

Look at the statistics. Most teen mothers do not marry the father of their child. Many teen parents DO NOT stay together. Most teen mothers are unwed. Many are receiving government assitance. Some are unfit to raise a child. Just because you are doing well, does not make the norm for any other pregnant teenager.

I was pregnant at 18. The "father" and I are no longer together. I worked long hours at McDonalds, grocery stores, warehouses just to make ends meet. I did, at one point, have my child and myself on Medicaid. My child was receiving WIC. I was living in a single wide trailer that rented for 350 dollars a month and I could barely afford it. I lived in housing that did not have heat, so I was using a kerosene heater that was both dangerous and made everything reek.

Now, I'm 25. I have been married for two years. I have another child with my husband and he has taken my 6 year old as his own. (Her "father" has not been in the picture for many years.) I watched as my house was being built. We own our own home. I am a stay at home mom because my husband makes enough money to support our family. I truly did have a "happily ever after".

However, was my life easy? Of course not! Does everyone teenage pregnancy story turn out like this? NO! I'm not going to sugarcoat it and say "Oh...you're 16 and pregnant.....Everything is going to be perfect." It's not. For most teen parents (if not all), it is a struggle, one that some parents have to face for MANY years. I don't think that just because there are rare instances where everything works out perfectly, we should just look the other way on teen pregnancy! Look at the facts! Fact is, most stories DO NOT turn out like ours.

Answer 9

Teenagers are the future of society,if all of the girls went around getting pregnant and dropping out of school then women will not always be able to progress in life since they have to spend much of their time taking care of children and its pretty hard for women who go back to school and have to take care of children.Another reason is that men's respect for women will decline. Also young relationships most often don't last long,come on its true,suppose a teen mother and her young partner decide to separate,that child will be put through hell with custody battles and to make matters even worse is if the mother is dependent on her partner financially.Its possible to deduce then that some of these young mothers are robbed of their ability to become independent,well educated adults.I am not however saying that all teens are irrisponsible,but the majority don't know how to deal with occurrences of pregnancies since they don't have experience in dealing with hardships nor the resources to upbring the children.

Answer 10

I don't understand by bash anyone with such a problem. I was married young to and many people thought it was a had to marriage. The priest told us it would not last. Well I am still in LOVE and been married for 33 years. We wait almost two months before we decided to have our first child. People that bash are just basher.

Answer 11

The reason people "bash" the idea of teens getting pregnant is they want to make it taboo since raising children requires a lot of responsibility and hard work. Sometimes teens are not up to the challenge. However, it sounds like you know what you're doing so don't worry about what others say. In a few years you will no longer be a teen and no one will be criticizing you.