Maturity, as women what are our obligations? what is expected of us??

Question

this question is for mature women holding it down, taking care of their children, home etc. being that im a young women starting out i wanted to make sure that im doing all the things that makes my family happy including myself. please feel free to give me any tips of motherhood, being a good wife and taking care of my children. i no longer have a night life but i dont want to go insane sitting at home not knowing what i should do. please help...

Answer 1

Pickup a hobby in your free time. I recommend hitting the bottle.

Answer 2

You do the best you can with what you have. Depending on your interests; there are many things to consider, though not one woman does it all, despite how things look from the outside.

Think: Quality of Life. What is important to a child's upbringing? Health, Love, Learning. Notice I didn't say "happy" or "having fun". Your job as a mother is to raise your babies, and if you assure their health, love and learning- they will have some fun. No need in dilutioning them into believing LIFE will be always fun, or the fun way is the right way for life. Just reasonably, life is sometimes fun when you assure quality of life.

Most moms don't have an exciting night life, but know that we are still alive (and mostly doing chores) at night! You can also invite neighbors or friends over for a game of scrabble or instead have a dessert and gab session. Honestly amazing what it does for the soul to speak "adult" and use all your prepositions and still be heard!

Answer 3

Spend some time with yourself. What are your values, what kind of person do you think you are and what kind of person do you want to be. If you need more education to fit into the kind of life you want then get it. Even if you marry and have children before you can complete it you will be a happier more fulfilled person for doing it.

Look at your interests, What makes you feel satisfied with your life or good about yourself? Plan to make those things a part of your life for the rest of your life. Don't forget your family of origin. Keep up connections with aunts, uncles, cousins and granparents. If you should lose your parents early you will still have connections with your family history. This will mean a lot to you when you have children of your own.

Take care of your health. You are young and now is the time to forge good habits about diet and exercise, getting routine check-ups, taking care of your body by daily attention to the simple things like beauty rituals, hands, feet, hair, elbows etc.

Stay connected with people who like who you are and support your goals and aspirations, Just because you marry don't give up old friends. You will need them in the future and they will need you also.

Make it a routine to spend some time every week doing something good for others. Volunteer at your church, a food shelf or shelter, the library, the animal shelter, an elementary school or a nursing home.

Go for it and have a good life.

Answer 4

It is all about finding balance. Let one thing guide you throughout motherhood: make your children proud that you are their mother. Make them proud of who you are, the values you believe in, how you spend your time, and the relationships you have with other people.

Children learn by example, whether you like it or not!, so do your very best to be the shining light & love in their lives.

You'll feel better about yourself as a woman for having done your best. Best doesn't mean only being a mommy, it means being well rounded too.

Answer 5

Well here's what I do.....I work a full time job Monday through Friday. I cook just about every night except on weekends because we like to go out to dinner. I do all the cleaning and the laundry. I make sure our daughter gets up and gets to the bus stop. We both raise her and are involved in her life. We do all kinds of stuff together as a family... fishing, camping, shopping, movies, parks, whatever really. I don't do much by myself but I do enjoy some simple things like...taking a long, hot bath, reading a good book, watching a sappy ol' love story. I think that you just have to balance it all. Take care of your family, but also take care of yourself!!!

Answer 6

Kat, the fact that you asked this question shows that you possess a good level of maturity already and I commend you for your effort to be better. I am a man but felt it neccessary to dive into this one.

Slow down in life, look for the little things that you do that you enjoy and explore them. See the little things that your children do that brings you joy and reward them for it. Protect your children, but do not control their every move, let them explore and have some freedom to be who they wish to be. Make them responsible for small aspects of their life. Teach them what it means to earn what you want in life and that these things are not given to you. Laugh, a lot. Shut off the television and read books with them. Take walks in the park and look for the little things in the grass and on the trees. Stop for an ice cream cone whenever you can. Pick up arts and crafts projects and do them together. Bring them into the kitchen and experiment with food. Let them get their hands dirty, have a food fight and then work together to get it cleaned up. Laugh again. Love them, embrace life and do not get caught up in the affairs of the world. Go to a little league game and root for everyone. Talk about your dreams. Help them paint their rooms and let them be creative, oops paint at HD is cheap, but the fun and sense of accomplishment will last forever. Build a tent inside your home with sheets and blankets and let them pretend to sleep out that night. Laugh.

Yoda out

Answer 7

The important this is to make sure you give yourself time during the day, even 15-20 mins that's devoted to yourself. It makes such a difference for me. In the beginning, I was all about the kids, then the spouse and nothing for me and it made me feel spent. Now, I make sure I get included in the equation, it makes for a happier household.

Answer 8

My son is fourteen and for fourteen years it has been him and me alone. The only tip I have about parenthood is it is all about sacrifice. The night life isn't all that great so there is little sacrifice there. You do sacrifice your time and energy daily so make sure your time and energy is spent on things they will remember and benefit from that you dig as well. I'm a single dad i hope this doesn't disqualify me from your target group of advice givers.

Answer 9

I am not married yet..but expect to be in July of the coming year.

Here is what I expect of myself because of what my parents ( mommy and daddy together ) taught me was NEEDED from them as adults raising children ( me and my brothers and sisters ) to adulthood.

They taught me to NOT go near people I know are bad for me and then to pretend like they are "ok" and whatever they may want me to do ..even if it is evil .. is "ok".

They taught me to prepare myself with an education so I would always be able to support myself and any children in case I somehow stupidly and unfortunately for my children if any and myself became attached to a man who could not grow up and act like a normal human being. They saw how the world was going before I was born.. and they knew I might be faced with a terrible choice someday of getting married to a man whose whole history pointed toward a dysfunctional marriage... or of somehow God being kind enough to grant me with a normal male capable of having a stable, honest , relationship with me for a lifetime. In either case. my parents wanted me to be prepared and so I am educated beyond the hilt to deal with whatever life brings to me.

If you worry already that you will go insane with boredom and you are not even married yet..then you need to find an intelligent outlet for your creativeness and kindness so that you do not redirect it into places where it can do no one any good.

Find great charitable organizations ( research first ) around you where any contribution of your valuable off time will be put to good use.

Your obligations to the world are that you do good to others during their time of need.. and that you do not allow the world to ruin your life.

Answer 10

Join clubs or get hobbies.

always make sure you find time for yourself or you will go nuts! Even if it's only for a soft drink, once a week you and hubby get out a coupe hours away from the kids.

Answer 11

You should chase your own dreams...then you will be a good example to your children. They will see you working towards a goal of your own and learn from you.