How would I tell my parents?

Question

I am 19 years old, and I'll be 20 in march. I just found out I was pregnant about a week ago. I've already told my boyfriend, but I am not sure how to tell my mom. I just have this weird feeling that she will be very upset with me, and I don't know why. I think she might suspect something since I've had really bad morning sickness & I've just been saying its the flu even though she knows I've had my flu shot..but she hasent said anything.

Answer 1

You just have to tell her. Tell her the truth. "Mom, me and (boyfriend) have been having sex, we didn't plan this, but it happened and we're happy about it- we're pregnant"

If she freaks, then tell her this "Look, I know it's not what you had planned for me. It's not even what I had planned for me, but it's happening and you can accept it and be there for me, or not"

This is how I had to handle it with my dad and I'm 20 and married!

Answer 2

Do you have a sibling that you're close to that could help you break the news? Seems to me having somebody there by your side might make it a little easier on you. I think it's best for you to tell them as soon as possible so you can start getting some prenatal care. Moms and Dads are pretty much the same all around sweetie, yes they will be a upset at first but once the shock wears off, they will support you.

I will tell you though, do not feel like you have to get married. I know so many people that got married because of a pregnancy and only ended in disaster. Just take it easy, tell your parents as soon as possible, you and your baby do not need this stress right now. And have some faith, you'll see things will turn out ok.

Best of luck to you both....or all 3 of you I should say. ;o)

Answer 3

I'm sure she will be very upset, but she won't flake on you. She's your mother and if you think she already suspects then she's probably waiting for you to ask to sit down and talk.

Don't leave it too long, but make sure you and your boyfriend are on the same page as to what you want. If you are a strong couple and present a united front, your mother will have a hard time talking you out of anything.

Talk with each other first, then plan a time to catch your mum when she is not stressed, when she will be able to discuss this very emotional situation. She is going to be upset regardless, you can't prevent that. Its how you and she choose to handle it from there, that will make or break both relationships.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You just gotta tell her. It could be part of your Christmas present to her(that is if you celebrate Christmas). You would come out and tell her that she's going to be a Grandma. I was 21 when I told my mother I was pregnant and I was scared too. I got her a mother's day card, but it was a Grandmother card and at first she didn't get it, but once she got it she was beyond excited!! You could do that with a Christmas card or a Happy Holidays card. There are many different ways to tell her. Just open up. Once your mom knows you are pregnant, it will bring you two closer. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I agree you should just tell her and soon. The longer you wait the harder you will make it on you. I was 20 when i had my first. I'm not really sure and not saying this is a fact but it seem like the average age that girls are having baby's now is around 20. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I think that you should just sit her down and tell her you need to talk to her. Tell her that you understand she may be upset.. but you plan to do.. *EXPLAIN YOUR PLANS* listen to what she has to say even if you do not agree with it. She may be upset, but hopefully she will get over it. Remember, a baby is a blessing. My mom was actually with me when I took my pregnancy test. She was very scared and nervous for me. However, she soon got over the aniexty and she adores my 13 month old daughter. Hopefully, everything will work out good for as well! Good luck.

Answer 7

well, more than likely shes already guessed...and youre an adult, so she should be a bit more understanding than if you were, say 14 or something. i know i was nervous about telling my mom (okay, im 22 but still...its hard to tell your parents!) but the thing is, just before i was going to tell her, she asked me if there was something i needed to talk to her about, i played it off like it was nothing (because i was nervous), and she said she knew. hon, its a mothers instinct. she likely knows already. sure, she may be upset that youre still young, but BELIEVE me, she will quickly get over that! she'll be so happy to be having a grandchild that she'll not even bother being mad at you for long (if at all!)...my advice is to sit her down and be straightforward and adult about it. yes, it will be hard and nervewracking but in the end youll both be happy. and enjoy having your mom around while youre pregnant! good luck, everything will be fine.

Answer 8

I was 20 when i got pregnant & terrified to tell my parents!! Seriously i was so stressed!! When i told them of course they were really mad & dissapointed.. It was kind of hard.. But now they are excited!! i live with my husband now but they want me to move back home for at least a few wks when my baby's born, just so baby & i won't be left alone when my husband goes to work...trust me, she will come around, she will be excited.. She will be mad at first & that's completely normal.. but You will be fine

Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 9

Just do it! Ther is no right way or wrong way! FAST like a band aid! At 1st she might be upset but... before you know it she will be buying baby stuff.

Answer 10

ur 19 & old enough to tell ur mom whats going on. She may be upset at first, but they ALWAYS come around. Ur her baby and she will help u through this. i was scared to tell my parents, but they are there for me more then ever!


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