so i currently have a 3 month old. the father and i split up back in april. we're just now gettin to go to the attorney general to start the child support. how do we go about the visitation with out having to go to court? and will he get to keep her over night immediatley or do they have a certain age for the babies? i honestly don't think its fair him getting her right away, but just wondering if someone knows the age.
2007-12-19 04:59:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first off, im not trying to keep her from him, but she has never been around him, and u dont just start off so fast. she needs to get used to him.
2007-12-19 05:05:38 · update #1
im not asking if there is an age to start visiting but the age for him to keep her over night. he should see her right away i agree
2007-12-19 05:10:10 · update #2
The best thing is for the two of you to work it out and stay away from the courts.
If you are suing him for support though that may sour him on cooperating (not that he has a good reason to be upset, but it is just a natural reaction --- OK I have to pay for the kid, I am going to get visitation).
Depending on the judge and the court some do make allowances for the age of the child and breast feeding, and order shorter periods of visitation initially that will increase as they get older. Many though don't really care. Unless you can prove he is unfit, if he insists, he is gonna get some overnight time. The judge will tell you to pump and send him the bottles if you want to maintain the breast milk --- some mother's try to use this as a way to block fathers yet mothers routinely pump/express so they can work, and even be away from time to time.
It is a tough situation when they are that small....try to reason with him before you go into court.
Good luck.
2007-12-19 05:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by George 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind, whatever you let him have before the court ordered visitation, he will get to keep, even if you change your mind. He will probably have weekends at some point, but the bab is too young to be gone overnight, more than likely. See if you two can amicably agree to a schedule right now, but remember, whatever you give him cannot be taken back if you ever change your mind. Make sure you both agree to whether or not either of you can have overnight visitors, etc. It's an ugly and complex process.
2007-12-19 05:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most court will not grant over night visits till the child is at least 2 to 3 years old. Unless you are OK with it. Try to come up with some sort of visitation schedule verbally and then write it down and have you both sign it. Then take it to get notarized. Good Luck.
2007-12-19 05:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by tarie75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get 100 different answers to this question......but......
You need to decide when, and where, and how long the visitations will be, then present them to the father. What you need to do is trust yourself. You are the mother of your child, and whatever decision you make should be known. I'm certain you will make the best choice for the baby, then yourself and the father. You will be speaking for your child for a long time. If the father is not responsible enough to have a baby, he should be supervised for overnight visits.
jess.
2007-12-19 06:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should be represented by lawyers, who will set up a suitable visitation schedule. They don't usually turn the child over that day, but it might be as soon as that weekend. Unless an agreeable visitation schedule can be set up between the two of you, this will end up in a court for a judge to decide.
2007-12-19 05:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same position. My son's father has never had my son over night and he is almost 7 now. I have full custody and his father's visitation is Sunday from 9-5 and wed from 4-7. If you guys can agree on visitation then you don't have to go in front of a judge and you should be fine.
2007-12-19 05:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree if the baby doesn't know him then it should be both parents visiting together so the baby can get to know him. I don't believe there is an age to start visiting.
2007-12-19 05:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by HIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think its "unfair" for him to see his child right away?
as far as the courts go, unless there is some circumstance why he shouldn't or cant take the kid over night he will be granted that.
2007-12-19 05:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by Slick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of why is it Not fair that he gets the baby. yes if he is the father he will have overnight visits there is no age . women like you kill me they want the father to pay support which they should. they want them not to have overnight visits???? and if he is smart he will go to court to get court ordered visits YOU DO NOT THINK ITS FAIR FOR OVER NIGHT VISITS.There is no age on when he gets his child. I am dealing with my ex trying not to let me take my son over night that is wrong. I cant wait to get her into court......................... grow up if he wants to have his child do not interfere sounds like you want to control over when where and why that is so wrong. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- if he has not been part of your childs life at this point he might not want to be part of his childs life. which is wrong in order for your child to have a healthy life she needs both parents in her life.................
2007-12-19 05:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by CEH 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would it not be fair for him to get her right away???? He is the Dad!!!!
Generally though, it has to do w/ breastfeeding - if you are still breastfeeding, he might not be able to keep her overnight...
2007-12-19 05:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋