he started buying me things he has not done that in a long time,he also is coming home from work later, like 2 hrs. later any suggestions
2007-12-19 04:58:30 · 30 answers · asked by Rose G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Or maybe he really busy at work and he is buying you things out of guilt because he is coming home late.
2007-12-19 05:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well the same thing happened to my mom. But she's smart. She went to all the places where he could say that he was and he wasn't there so when she found him he was totally busted. If I were you I would keep these thoughts to yourself. Do you own private investigating, check to make sure he really is at work like he says. You don't want to just start accusing him unless you have proof, for all you know he could be working late to be able to buy you those gifts. If your gut is telling you otherwise then do a little research first, that way if you realize it's nothing then you will believe your findings more than if he just tells you it's nothing. If it is something then you have the proof and you won't have to keep wondering. Good luck, if it is true you are better off without him. No one deserves to be in that kind of relationship.
2007-12-19 13:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by angel32984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all his job may require longer hours this time of year
My husband works for a tire company as a driver and the company requires them now to work every saturday instead of the regular every second saturday and that if there's work to be done in the warehouse they basically have to stay till it's done type thing this time of year as it's there busiest time
as to the gifts i wouldn't worry about that Most dont' get that
Here's An Idea TALK TO HIM
Dont' jump to conclusions without any proof
You wouldn't like him to do that to you
Give him the benifit of the doubt
Maybe the overtime is making so he's able to buy you gifts more than he would have been able to before
2007-12-19 13:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u ask him where he's been for the past 2 hrs? If not , then maybe u should, there's no reason to jump into conclusions. Talking to your husband would be the best thing to do, you can tell a liar by how he'll answer u, if he bursts out shouting, ohhh yeah.....he's cheating, been through that ;) Hope he isn't though, best of luck!
2007-12-19 13:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by acia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought that he is working overtime to pay for those things that is is buying you? sounds to me like your husband is trying to treat you and you are not sure how to take it,,, sit him down and ask him ( not accuse him) what is going on,, tell him all that you have noticed going on, gifts, change of work schedule etc etc,, if he cannot give you a explanation of it and suddenly stops working late, chances are It could be an affair. But highly unlikely because you only gave 2 issues, he is buying you things and working later, Nothing was mentioned about him not paying you interest, deminished sex life, arguing, fussing, etc etc.
2007-12-19 13:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him point blank why he is suddenly always late at work and simply say.. I think you are commiting adultery.
OR ..you could quietly say nothing at all..and park near where he works.. but not too close so he could see you.. and then you could follow him after work to see where he goes. If it is to another job where he is earning a little extra for Christmas ..so? Nice and good. If he is cheating..then you will know where and with whom. Once you know.. why bother getting mad? Let the anger pass you by..then figure out what to do ...then do that. But do it responsibly and without tremendous terrible things happening. If you have children..remember that they need you to raise them right.
If you have young babies.. make sure you have a baby sitter ready to be there for quite awhile...
2007-12-19 13:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by juliette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have any proof I wouldn't stress over it. Talk to him about it. Why is he working later? He could be buying you things because he loves you. Try not to think the worst. When he gets home just tell him how you feel.
2007-12-19 13:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, look for more signs first and patterns. And do things like showing up at his office out of the blue, call his cell phone just to check what he is doing... and one thing that really works... do the same sort of thing he is doing, dress up, call in late, look prettier than ever, but do not cheat .. if he is guilty of cheating he will begin feeling bad. He will either stop, come out clean with or ... he will ask you if you are cheating when you say No, then ask him ARE YOU?
It might work! Don't freak out, stay calm and be smarter than him!
2007-12-19 13:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by sing_to_me_09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he do for a living. It's Christmas time and business is getting busy for most. Maybe the overtime is affording him to be able to buy you things. Get more evidence befor you confront him because if he is cheating and thinks you know, he will hide it better. Men always slip sooner or later, they don't cover their tracks well.
2007-12-19 13:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All woman think that when a man buys something for you that they are doing something wrong, It could be that he realizes that he is working later and feels bad, so he wants you to know that he still loves you.
Don't get me wrong it does sound a little suspicious, however if you are really concerned about it, follow him on day/night.. see if he is working late, that will give you a true answer. good luck
2007-12-19 13:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋