you whould want to divorce and if it goes every 3 months once sex because of her work what whould you do?
2007-12-19 04:26:26 · 22 answers · asked by Kaankaan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find a new roomate. Ditch her, she is no longer involved in the relationship
2007-12-19 04:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're married and care about her...find-out WHY your sex life has gone to pot. If the job requires her to be away from home for weeks at a time, with little more than a weeked back before the next multi-week trip...and the money's there, fly-out (or if it's close enough, drive out) for a "weekend fling." In any case, see if she can talk to her employer about modifying her duties to spend less time on the road.
Now, if it's not job related...prepare for a possible ego bruising, because it may be something YOU are doing...sit her down and tell her that you love her and care fore her, but you need to know why she isn't interested in sex with you anymore.
If it's not job related and not related to anything *you* have done, is she on any new meds? Many medications supress the libido. Is she depressed? etc...
Now, if she's not a wife but a girlfriend, and you haven't expended a huge amount of effort in building the relationship... end it *before* going out to look for options. If you have expended a great deal of effort (and especially if you have plans to possibly marry her!)... Go to the top and start reading from there - the answer is pretty-much the same.
Regardless, if she tells you that she doesn't love you anymore, see if it would be worth the effort to rebuild the relationship, and if it isn't, end it/divorce her/etc.
In any case...sex is NOT the most important part of a marriage - or even a (serious) relationship, but it is important. Without it, the couple tend to drift apart, and become little more than room mates and (occasionally distant) friends. A marriage is a full-time job *with* an included sex life. Remove the sex completely, and it becomes more than a full-time job, and most people don't want to work that hard.
2007-12-19 06:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something about this story doesn't ring entirely true, but let's pretend. First, a half hour is rather a long time for a man past his teens to try to sustain an erection. I assume you can masturbate to climax in under 30 minutes alone, so the trick is to masturbate to climax ... during sex! It takes some cognitive gear-shifting but I'm sure you can figure it out. But second, however wonderful he may be outside the bedroom, he sounds mean and condescending when it comes to sex. So maybe you should just be friends, and find a boyfriend who will really appreciate a partner who wants sex more than once or twice a month.
2016-05-25 01:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by lavera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won't be 3 months for us until January 5th, but I can relate.
married 13 years, now. That said, we have 3 offspring and I will fight long and hard before I let them go through a divorce.
...but at some point a guy has nneds...if women don't realize that, well, who knows what I'll do.
Good luck to all in low-sex relationships
2007-12-19 04:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in that boat right now.....I waited 11 months for my wife to agree to have sex.....Did i think she was cheating NO reason why she gave birth to our second son last January and she has been having hormonal issues plus she is not happy with the way she looks....I tried and tried everything I could do in order to bring the romance back into our lives and I am still trying......I will never cheat on my wife I love her too much to shame her like that and I will wait and keep on waiting until she is comfortable to engage in an active sex life!!
2007-12-19 07:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is out of town for that long at a time. I would fly out to see her. If she is so tired that she doesn't feel like doing anything, look around. Is she having to work long hours and then come home to do laundry, dishes, cooking/cleaning? The biggest turn on for many women in this situation is someone who will do some or all of those chores so she doesn't have to. If she is so stressed out from work, take her for a romantic weekend. If none of the above works, or is applicable...you may have a problem. Seek counseling or be frank with her and ask why you are not having sex more often? Weight gain? Is someone cheating etc?
2007-12-19 04:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by yogurt777 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Frist thing to do is sit and talk to her about it. I guess it will depend on How happy you are and if you really want to work this out.
On the fair side before you go and start thinking she is cheating. There are many medical reasons why she may not want to. Ask her is there something you can do to help. Let her no that this is bugging you and you want to work it out. Dont start off bye saying she is Cheating. Ask Whats going on.Tell her that you think you both should talk to someone. Sex can be a very upsetting subject if not talked about in the right way! If she is still un willing to find the problem. I would do what I had to do
2007-12-19 04:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Three months with out having sex with my husband....oh boy....if it wasn't because he died three months ago then I'd have to gut punch him with the idea that I'm going to have sex with or without him. Men hate that visual. But seriously, you gotta find out what the deal is. The only thing I can think of that would turn a GF or wife off from sex is she caught you cheating and now is turned off. I wanna say money but three months...not even money issues would hold you up that long. Or the worst case is she's cheating and he's knocking the bottom out. If you love her find out. If not, the best x-mas present maybe a new GF.
2007-12-19 04:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by I am what I am 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would have a good sit down talk to discuss whats going. Sex isn't everything for everybody and sometimes its more important to another. Be patient and try to understand. If a job is getting in the way look at options.
2007-12-19 04:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I havent had sex with my wife in 6 months. Divorce is probably imminent but it's not just about lack of sex.
2007-12-19 04:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, just because she hasn't had sex with you for 3 months doesn't mean you should just jump into a divorce.
Rather then doing that, communicate with her and find out why it is she hasn't been interested in having sex with you in 3 months.. maybe there's a good reason behind it that you fail to see because your marriage lacks communication!
2007-12-19 04:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋