My boyfriend want's a baby but i don't know if i am ready?

Question

I am trying to get into school and i want to have a baby too but i really need to start school should i start school and then try to have one or finish my basics and then try i just don't know what to do.

Answer 1

You need to wait until you know FOR SURE that you're ready. And your boyfriend will just have to be patient.

Answer 2

You're asking this question. What does that say to you? There is doubt! Where there is doubt, don't do it. Although you might think in the back of your mind you want a baby, you also are set on going to school. I am glad I went through school first before having kids. I think it would have been HARDER if I'd had a child first. Follow your gut feeling. If it's saying SCHOOL, go to school. A baby can wait. So can your man IF HE LOVES YOU.

Take it from someone who knows, whose 35 and had some boyfriends in their lifetime. Men can talk the sweet talk (concerning their wants) but when it comes to paying the price, the majority of the men I have met just aren't IT. You will end up paying far more than any man will when it's time for you to have a child. So if your man is patient enough to WAIT, then he'll be good enough for you to have babies with LATER.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Start and finish school first you would want to get that out the way first. You want to be stable when you bring a child into this world, that's most important. Second you want to make sure your relationship is ready for a baby. Like how long have you been with this person? How is the relationship between you all going? You might want to take your relationship to another level before having kids because he is still just your boyfriend. It's alot to think about and deal with but it's worth it. That way you know you would have made the best decision and if he really love you and he wouldn't stand in your way of going and finishing school. I think you all should talk about it and you should let him know how you feel. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!

Answer 4

Finish school, get a good job. Get settled financially, THEN have a baby. If you have the kid now, you will probably not be able to finish school. Sounds like you have doubts anyway, so why do it? Look at the reasons why you would want to RIGHT NOW. You would give the child a better life if you waited until YOU KNOW you are ready. NOt when someone else pushes this choice on you.

Answer 5

Just say NO, NO, NO then ask him what part of NO does he not understand. Having a child is a major decision for any married couple. You must be "right" for yourself or you can not be right for anyone, including the baby. The child will be a "full time" job for mother. Guys are just part timers. Don't care what your boyfriend says. He has not even made the commitment to marrying you and now he wants to get you pregnant. What will he want when the feeding schedule is every two hours, leave? I would ask your boyfriend to first show you he is ready to accept fatherhood - get educated, get a good job that will support both you and the child and then marry you. If he doesn't want any of those things -- tell him there is the door don't let it hit you in the rear! Go get yourself educated so you can stand on your own two feet and not have to depend on anyone who will not marry you first before asking to have children. Sorry to say but I smell a loser from where I stand.

Answer 6

You need to get your life in order before you can bring another life in it.. I had my daughter when I was 17, and I'm still in school. I only go part time, and I work full time. Its too much to take on at once, so stop yourself before you get too far. The fact that you're asking other people what you should do, right away signals that you're not ready to have a baby. Just take your time in life. If you have a baby, you will have to give up everything in your life. You will have NO time to yourself for quite a long time. Sit down and talk with your boyfriend and both of you need to admit that neither of you are ready for this kind of responsibility.

Answer 7

Don't - you just said you are not ready.
School is hard enough, wait until you are done.
Many cultures put a stigma on kids who have parents that are not married, not sure if you are in that culture, but think abut it.
Wait until you are 25 at least, you never said your age, but a baby born to a mother when the mother is between 25 and 35 has the least amount of health issues.

I feel a rant coming on, if you do decide to have a baby, don't drink or smoke until the baby is born.

Best of luck no matter what you choose.

Answer 8

If you know in your heart that you are not ready, then listen to that. It will be unfair to you and a baby to bring a child into the world that you are not 100% ready to deal with! Go to school first, and when you are finished, and have a good job that will allow you to raise a child, then think it over! Having a child is not just a passing fad, it is a life long committment!

Answer 9

Don't get a kid, let him know after you finish your degree then you will be all for it. A child will definately handicap your ability in school. Also, make sure the both of you are financially well indoubt before having a child, PLANNING IS THE KEY!!!! No sudden impulses. Keep your head straight on what it will take to give your child a great future!!! It takes careful planning to pull it off right or else you'll just end up in a wrong decision.

Answer 10

Never let anyone push you into something you know you're not ready for. You have the right idea, and if your BF loves you he'll wait until you are both ready. It's always better to wait until you get your education and are in a position to provide a proper future for your child. If he can't understand that you are doing this FOR your child then maybe you should wait until he grows up a little as well.

Answer 11

Go to school, finish school, get a job, get a house, SAVE MONEY then consider having a baby. It's VERY expensive to have a baby, and a toddler, child etc. School will have to wait. I had my 1st at 20 and am now 35 and slowly working to complete my bachelors (with 2 other children born in my 2nd marriage when I was OLDER). Please, you're boyfriend doesn't have to take care of this child if he decides to skip out, your baby deserves to have everything and so do you.