well we been linked togather for about 9yrs and he seem to think that i'm having an affair but I work full time,go to school full time in the evenings and to top it all off I am a full time mother of 10 yes I did say 10 any ideas anyone
2007-12-19 03:35:48 · 10 answers · asked by Gods Child 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try reading the book 5 languages of love. It opened a lot of doors for me. I have an extra copy, if you have a P.O. address I will send it to you for a late Christmas gift. Good luck!
2007-12-19 03:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bubblione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for a "bring your man to work day". I'm completely serious. If he knows that he can stop on by anytime as long as he helps you in whatever you are doing, he should quickly learn that what you are doing DOES eat all your time and if he wants a bigger piece of your world, he is welcome to pull up a chair and help stuff envelopes or type briefs. Just explain to your co-workers that he is having some trust issues and has promised to help when he does stop by and they will get used to putting him to work when he does show up. He should also get a feel for your family life, so I am thinking he can come over as long as he picks several topics for homework help and understands that if he drops by on laundry night, he might have to sort or fold - and he needs to get it right ;). SInce there is no reason to keep him out, he may as well see this. Chances are, he will quickly get bored of checking out your work and once the people you work with become regular people in his mind, he will stop letting his imagination run - besides, then you can tell him exactly what you are doing at work and he will know exactly how boring or difficult that task is and he can give you some well-deserved empathy! After 10 years, he should get a good dose of understanding - just tell him to take a day off and come along on one of your wonderful, exotic days so maybe he can show you where you could sneak a little nooky in. LOL
2007-12-19 03:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So are you having an affair? You didn't say you weren't.
Just because you're busy.... ok, really busy... means diddly.
If he asked you about it, answer straight up. Don't give excuses that you couldn't possibly have time. If you have time for a relationship with him, you have time for an affair.
Find out why he's thinking this. Without judging or even giving answers, find out what he's thinking. Be curious. Don't try to prove him wrong.
That will start up down the right path to communication.
2007-12-19 03:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding! Working full time, going to school full time and taking care of 10 children! How do you have time to think about men? It sounds like He's the one that wants to have the affair. I would drop the bum and let him crawl back to you on his hands and knees. If you do this, make sure you have him checked out for social diseases when he returns. I think you deserve better, but its your call. You sound very aggressive, get your schooling, become autonomous, and thumb your nose at the loosers.
2007-12-19 03:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bernie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because youre so busy with everything else it seems like you dont have time for him. Make it a point when you come home to sit down and ask him how his day was. Or before you go to bed, or while laying in bed tell him you love him. I think hes just feeling insecure cause he doesnt have some alone time with you very often.
2007-12-19 03:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by noones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fail to mention if you are having an affair or why he thinks you might be... busy women manage to fit affairs in between busy schedules.. its also odd you refer to being linked to someone and having communication problems... what does any of this mean... linked how? what communication problems... he thinks you are having an affair but you can't convince him otherwise??? how about an open honest talk about what is really going on and not hiding behind your busy schedule with a link to someone??? you don't sound very in touch with your feelings or his... maybe thats the problem.. you are detached and he wants to be attached...
2007-12-19 03:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a special night happen. You and this person, alone, relaxed, and all of your attention on him. Listen to him, ask him questions, find out what is wrong. It appears he is feeling neglected. Give him some special time, it will pay off for you in the long run.
2007-12-19 03:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by bonnie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's unstable if he thinks you can fit an affair into all that hard work. I watched a story like this on Divorce court last week, don't go there.
2007-12-19 03:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kate M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His insecurity is within himself, and nothing to do with you. It is something that he needs to work on, if he wants to have a lasting relationship with anyone. You sound blameless, and I can sense your frustration.
2007-12-19 03:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out why he thinks you are having an affair.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-19 03:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋