My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and lived together for the last 1.5 years (we bought a house). We also have 3 dogs that we think of as our babies...lol.. We've survived hard times and have become closer from them, but we have never broken up and rarely do we fight. We are a very open couple. We talk about marriage very often, including the type of ring that I want. I told him that I want a CZ ring, but he would like to get me diamonds. He has been picking up many extra shifts lately, but I'm trying not to be presumptious. (he also has a lot of college loans that he wants to pay off) We just had our 1st vacation, 3 yr anniversary, and now xmas is coming up. He told me on our 3 year anniversaty that he won't propose on an obvious day because it wouldn't be a suprise....but do you think it will happen soon? NOTE - we have talked and I told him that if he doesn't propose by 4 years that I'm gone (not in a nasty way, but I wanted him to know what I was thinking)
2007-12-19 03:08:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please note that I do not want to force him into an engagement...it is the last thing I want. However, when I met him he didn't belive in marriage. I did and still do want to be married. I think that he should feel comfortable proposing by 4 years, especially since we have decided that we want a 2-3 year engagement so that we can pay off our college debt and pay for the wedding as we go along. I just don't want to end up celebrating our ten year anniversary as boyfriend and girlfriend.
2007-12-19 03:22:48 · update #1
If he's discussed this with you and hasn't ran away with his tail tucked between his legs, I'd say it's coming soon. Seeing how you've already built a committed life together and he wants to buy you a ring...well, it's only a matter of time. I think it's sweet that he wants to surprise you with timing.
2007-12-19 03:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by housewife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be patient. You should never force a man into marriage. Men take time with marriage. It's not a commitment on paper. It's a big commitment to make that will effect both your lives. He has to make sure. Never rush!!! 3 years is not bad at all. Shoot my Pastor finally married his wife after 8 years being engaged. That's when she told him moarry me or I will leave you. Now that I understand. But 3 years? Nah don't worry he will. He hasn't run off yet right? Give him time. The more you push it the onget it will be until you two get married.
2007-12-19 03:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm incredibly lots the right comparable subject. i'm turning 21 in August, he 22 in Feb - considerable different and that i've got been jointly 5 years on Sunday. i do no longer want an engagement any further than 18months to 2yrs. ideally i might want to attend til i'm 24 to be married, for the comparable reason as you - the stupid judging and so on. nonetheless particularly what's a 12 months, if we are engaged at 21 and 22, and married at 23 and 24? i might want to get married in September, so we'd ought to hold off an engagement for 18 months to be married Sept 2014, or we are able to attend until after my birthday this 12 months (that's the way its looking- overdue this 12 months) and get married Sept 2013 (argh is that an unlucky 12 months?) we've lived jointly on our own for over a 12 months, have joint funds, have a pup, i've got moved interstate for him, achieved 6 months long distance, finished uni... i'm initiating to sense impatient too, which makes me sense particularly immature, yet i might particularly like the rock on my finger and to make this guy my hubby. Gahhhhh permit me understand the way you flow :)
2016-11-23 14:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sally, I don't mean this in a mean way but you need to stop being selfish. Of course he loves you and I am sure he wants to marry you, but he is acting in a responsible manner. He feels the need to be able to provide for you and he wants to take the time to get things in order. He is to be admired for that. Too often these days kids rush into marriage and end up living with mom and dad because they just acted on their feelings and were not practical about how they would support themselves. They often end up divorced.
You have found one of the "good" ones women so often go on about. Be patient, enjoy your life and quit stressing about when...it will happen if you can just be yourself and build upon the relationship that you already have.
Yoda out
2007-12-19 03:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a wonderful life going for you. I'm sure it will happen for you. You have a great relationship, you already live well together. You've both discussed marriage and it sounds like it's something you both want. Just be patient and enjoy what you already have. It will happen.
2007-12-19 03:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by jpete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like it will happen soon. I know you don't want to force him, but sometimes guys need a little help. Sometimes guys (and girls) become complacent and need a little nudge! Good luck!
2007-12-19 03:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by feline_farmer1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone! Do not hint or ask questions about it anymore. It is awesome to be surprised. Keep yourself busy and stop thinking about it.
2007-12-19 03:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK SO, BUT GIVE HIM TIME DON'T RUSH HIM EVEN THOUGH IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SOME MEN NEED MORE TIME THAN OTHERS
2007-12-19 03:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Julia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes u should get ngaged soon. if not keep ur promise and leave after 4 yrs.
2007-12-19 03:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My magic eight ball says that it is "likely".
2007-12-19 03:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by zerotimeforfun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋