How Do You Feel About People With Children Receiving More Benefits Than You?

Question

- Companies do holiday Adopt-A-Family for people With children. Yet a childless person isn't able to be adopted and may want gifts for Xmas also and can't afford them. Those parents need to teach their children that their are hard knocks in life rather than whining about not receiving presents at xmas.

-Habitat for Humanity only builds for families. Yet there are many childless working people who can't find affordable housing or afford a house.

-Children can also receive medical benefits from the government if their parents don't make enough, yet in most states childless people are not able to apply for medical benefits.

-My stupid company actually gave a children's party for employees with children under 12. And the children received a better gift than the adults who work for the company.

Oh, one family adopted for Xmas asked for the gifts to be held because they are taking a two-week vacation.

It's no fair to responsible adults.

Oh, and let me also say that 90% of the people couldn't speak English (not grammatically incorrect, but because they weren't born here),

Answer 1

I feel the same way. People who cannot reproduce or have chosen not to should be compensated the same as people who have made the decision to have children. Maybe through taxes?

It also goes beyond parties. Most jobs allow employees with children more flex time when leaving work, leaving early, staying home when school is cancelled. Etc.

If the corporate world is going to treat everyone the same and fairly, they need to do so for people who don't have children and are single.

Answer 2

Children are completely dependent on their parents. You cannot compare a child's need to an adult's need. As a parent, yes, you should teach your child about the "hard knocks" in life, but heck, you don't want them to go through it if you can help it. Children cannot go work full-time for health benefits. And unless they are rich, they also cannot go out and purchase their own gifts. Personally, I would rather see an adult living on the streets than a child - so yes, Habitat for Humanities should build for families. Why are you so upset about it and what's up with the "it's not fair to 'responsible' adults" comment? Are you saying that only irresponsible adults have children? It sounds like you are jealous of the kids because they received better gifts than you received.

Answer 3

You can choose not to participate. Adopting a family at Christmas is centered on children...not childless people...because we build up Christmas and Santa for the kids. As for children receiving medical benefits from the government, my kid gets assistance and she is healthy...yet, I'm not healthy and my benefits have been cut (now that I have medical expenses I can't afford). Your company having a party for kids is keeping with the season...sorry they thought more about the kids then the grown folks. As for the family that is taking a vacation and want's gifts held, I'd hold them long enough to carry over to a more needy family.

Merry Christmas.

Answer 4

If you were a "responsible adult", you won't be crying, because kids are getting more than you are. Adult who can't manage by themselves, have their own faults. But imagine, trying to survive with your salary/pay. while raising 2 kids, going to the doctor every time they're sick to assure that they won't die from their illness, feeding that growing human. Paying extra utilities, to comfort them, and then try being the best parent you can, while having to work all day, being away from the greatest thing you ever got, just so you can assure that they will grow up, healthy and happy.

Basically, your not a Responsible adult, your a spoiled child, upset that you can't get a hand out, when you don't need it.
You'll remember this, if & when you have kids, and you'll be looking for a little help, to assure your the best parent you can be.

If you need a little convincing, go to the store, and look @ formula for babys. Those run about $15 a can, you'll need at least one a week, and then look @ diapers, and see how much those run. Then Maybe you'll understand why doing somethin for people with kids makes a little more sense.

SCROOGE!!!

Answer 5

Tour correct it's not fair. But who said life was fair. I think some folks in the U.S.S.R. held a little experiment on treating everyone the same. As I hear it from friends who lived there it was not so great. People reach out to kids during the Holidays because the can not help themselves. Hard for a 6 year old to get a job so he can get a present. As for the folks that said hold our gifts till after vacation, do you have the full story?
Now put your "they treat them better" whiny attitude back where it belongs and see that true Joy is not what I got, but how can I make others feel better.

Answer 6

Life is not fair; but there are countless things besides gifts or benefits for which one can be thankful. Suppose you had to pay or wait in line to view the beauty of the earth.Thank God that the rain falls on the just and the unjust. Sunshine is for all; and there is no bill. Fresh breezes are still free. Have you viewed a sunrise or sunset lately?We receive so many benefits but we fail to take the time to appreciate them because the world is so materialistic. Everything seems to be money,money,money.People want to receive and they forget the maxim that it is more blessed to give. Anyone who wants to receive benefits designated for those with children can foster or adopt so that they will not be 'deprived' when it is time to benefit from them. I am childless but I do not bemoan that fact.Some of the material things in life I cannot afford; but I do give of my time and myself so that others may see life as a gift and appreciate the beauty of the earth.

Answer 7

Of course it's not fair to childless co-workers. I haven't taken a sick day in years, but by golly, those same people are taking bunches of time because their little darlings have the sniffles.

My child is now 28, but I never took a day off when he was sick. Coughed up the huge fee to take him to a special day care center for sick kids so I could go to work.

I park in the prego spots at the grocery store & malls. Pregnancy and children are not an illness - I hauled water out of a well (another story altogether) until the day before my child was born.

Part of being an adult is learning to accept some things are "no fair".

Answer 8

I do agree. I resented all the dang baby showers I shelled out money for and no one remembered my birthday! So, I stopped that nonsense and only went to the first shower of someone I knew well.

The office party for children 12 and under is bad, that also left out teens. It is not the companies duty to deal with the kids, they are to care for their employees. Having said that, do many of the employees have financial worries? Then it may make sense the company wanted to help--but give the money to the parents!

There is definately maritalizm in our culture, leaving out singles. We just need to be more vocal about it, I know I am.

Answer 9

I merely heard approximately this on the radio and it sounds love that's going to be presented in September while the MPs are back for their 'holiday journeys.' yet yet another poorly concept out scheme by potential of the great clueless. I abhor potential finding out, yet until eventually yet another technique of looking out who's actual needy, then this is the sole way. no person desires to work out little ones go through chilly in the iciness months yet there is not any want for economic help in the final public of homes. I in no way lived in centrally heated homestead until eventually i replaced into 30 + I and my little ones did not the two while they have been very youthful. all of us lived to inform the story although!!! while they have been small we had an immersion heater for the nice and cozy water, a gasoline hearth in the lounge, cooker in the kitchen, a small electric powered heater in the little ones mattress room for while the homestead windows have been frozen on the interior. We extensively utilized blankets, warm water bottles and a great style of woolies, jumpers, tights etc. and we've been delicate!! no person cried because of the fact they have been chilly. youngsters getting dressed and ingesting breakfast until eventually now the hearth. advantageous warm nutrients on the table ,and we did not have the extensive utility expenditures we see at present. i'm not asserting families must be residing a frugal and chilly existence, merely use somewhat bit uncomplicated experience and the government must be placing that greater money the place it somewhat is needed and not merely handing it out carte blanche. solid question Haz, have a megastar. ?

Answer 10

yeah, its uncool. As it is, being single is hard enough. I hate it during tax season when families get 10grand back in refunds just becasue they have 20 kids and i make the most and get 2grand. But it evens out at times I guess because they have alot more spending to do than I do. Course the whole idea of staying single was to enjoy my money and the benefits of being single but you are right, they get better treatment.
now in the holidays, I used to be forced to work so that some dude could spend the day with their family..totally unfair! I used to quit on them all the time..that showed them!