2007-12-19 01:44:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a hard question. The only time I have been concerned about my son's sex lives was when they were dating. I always told them to be careful or to keep it in their pants.
There has only been one time I gave sexual advice to my son and he came to me asking. His wife was pregnant and complaining, and he wanted to know why, and how to deal with it. I gave him what I thought was very sound advice. If having intercourse was causing pain to his wife, that maybe he should become aquainted with his hand for awhile. He took my advice.
Otherwise, I don't think a Mother should be asking ANY of her ADULT children about their sex lives.
2007-12-19 02:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by carmeliasue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that she desperately wants to get involved into his life. She does not feel included and so she tries to find a subject they could connect on. Aparently she is not tactful enough (sorry) or understand the concept of subtlety. Or perhaps she suspects that her son might be gay. These are the two possible scenarios. But don't get mad at the mom, she has best intentions in mind, just doesn't know any better.
2007-12-19 01:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by foxy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mother-in-law and the relationship she had with her son ruined our marriage! They talked about everything!! Anytime we would get in an argument, he would call her! He told her EVERYTHING! We had absolutely no private life! Of course, she then felt like she had the right to tell me how to be a better wife - in every way! There relationship is sick! Still to this day he puts her before all else, including his children!
That is going way too far!!!!!! Mom needs to back off and allow her son to be a man! What is going on in his bedroom is NONE of her business!!!!
2007-12-19 02:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 02:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by beisch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see a Mother being concerned about a divorced son. And, maybe if she is asking about his "sensual" life, it means the same as asking if he is connected with anyone currently.But, if she is asking about his "sexual" life, that is definitely not something most adult children share with their parents.
2007-12-19 01:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if you have a good and open relationship with your son then I don't see it as a problem...My mom and I has always talked about personal things in my life and I respect her for that..Who else other than your parent to be able to talk to you about anything in your life....I hope my three son's feel like they can share anything with me and know I will always be there to listen...
2007-12-19 02:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will never forget the first time I met my mother in law.
My husband had been in a six year relationship prior to me (no marriage- just a never ending engagement) and when they broke up it got nasty- the ex girlfriend had accused him of being impotent, among other things- all lies.
Anyway, I had gone to meet the parents and we had a great dinner and everything. His mom, obviously still worried about the ex girlfriends claims- turned to me and very seriously asked "How is he in the bedroom? Is it adequate?" I thought I'd choke.. the way she asked it was as if she could order a replacement part or something..
It's not normal at all.. I just want you to know you're not the only one.
2007-12-19 01:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I might ask my divorced son if he's seeing someone, but that is as far as I'd go. The rest is assumed and is certainly none of my business!
2007-12-19 01:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is gross and may be a sign of mental instability. Wow! WAY over the line.
Only a very very weird mother would think discussions of her sons sexual life with him would think it is "ok". She would have to be a very manipulative person ..interfering in every way to believe she has any right to her daughter in law and her sons ..private bedroom info. And I do mean VERY weird.
2007-12-19 02:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if it is asking in details, yes... WAY too far... If it is asking about if he is dating and such, then that is just a Mom being a Mom... As for me, I don't want to know my children EVER have those thoughts, as I'm sure they feel the same! LOL
2007-12-19 01:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋