The teen with problems: She has always been bright, but unmotivated. Getting by would be her moto. Average to below average grades, very overweight, poor hygene. Easy to talke to, talks a good talk, not doing anything terribly bad, or terribly good. Until
Teen and family agree for her last year in school she would live away from home, with parents close by. This was mutually agreeable.
Teen now desides to not go to school, and even skip on going to work, which she had previously liked. What does she do instead...sleep. She has been encouraged, in many different ways to do the right thing, but she doesn't do it.
So now, this teen has used up most of her options, parents, school, work and will soon be faced with the results of these decisions. No money, no work, family distanced, no education.
Is there anything, any one who can turn a person like this around. A boot camp, a program, the military, a group...
2007-12-19 01:25:16 · 9 answers · asked by redford 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Try to find out if she's depressed or is doing drugs. I know that it might be very hard and stuff, but you have to consider all the options. Then you will be able to decide. Don't send her to a program yet until you know the reason why she is so unmotivated. It might make her condition worse if you do so. Good Luck.
2007-12-19 03:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by DCD4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the only thing that made me change my life around was tough love. My family showed me that they loved me by not letting me live with them anymore, no more free cable, free bed, free bath, free food, no free anything. That made me a fighter. I got my act together and got a job, went back to school and got my own apartment, all in that order. And I did everything on my own. They made me a want to survive, and now I know there is nothing that can stand in my way that I can't get over. She needs a good kick in the pants and for people to stop babying her. She probably is depressed, but I'm not a psychiatrist so I do not feel comfortable diagnosing her. If she does have depression, she should be talking to therapist, and you should still stick to your guns. Donot theaten anymore, just do. When my family did this to me, I was completely shocked, cried and begged, said I had no where to go (and I really didn't) and that I was scared, but I am now a better person.
Before all this I had been in and out of group homes and DOC and nothing really made me want to change because I knew my family would do whatever I wanted them to do for me. When they took that away, and meant it, I couldn't believe it. I hope things work out. Be strong and stick to what you say.
2007-12-19 09:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right path a boot camp, military or maybe job corp could help but I have to wonder if she isn't depressed you should schedule a visit with a doctor or therapist who will know the right questions to ask and signs to look for if she isn't depressed and jest lazy it is time for tuff love it won't be easy but is the long run it will be worth it at 18 you must tell her you will do A) B) C) D) or you will get out of our home we will not support a lazy bum and then if she doesn't follow Thu pack her bags and make her leave it sounds cruel but it is tough love and it works if it doesn't you have done the best that you could she is 18 an adult it time for her to step up or get out unless you want to support a dead beat for the rest of your life and then what happens when your gone then who is going to take care of her that is why it is so important that you be tuff and stop this before its to late.
2007-12-19 10:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what i think you can do is put her into a talking group with people she doesnt know so that she can meet people she doesnt know. about her job i think you should trick her into doing something that is job related so that she doesnt know that she is doing work and when she relizes that she is doin work she will want to go and do a job. for her being over weight you have to force her into working out so that she can shave some of that fat off her. and her family problem there isnt much you can do except to besides letting her take her time to do what she wants.
2007-12-19 11:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she using drugs? Its either that or depression, either way she needs professional help but it sounds like you know that. Take her for a physical first to eliminate any physical problems and have the doctor make a psychological referral to rule out depression.
2007-12-19 09:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by SunLover 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly, you will just have to let her decide when she is ready to come out of her hole. she may be depressed, but she may just be completely unmotivated and no one but her can motivate herself again. she will just have to have something in her life give her a wake up call. im so sorry that you have to go through this, i hope everything works out for the best and good luck.
2007-12-19 11:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is suffering from depression. She may need to see a psychiatrist.
2007-12-19 09:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cadillac 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you dont mind putting her on meds then put her on adderall
i was on it for a few years and my grades went up from c's and D's to all a's a b's...i was so focused, i loved to work.....
2007-12-19 09:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by chelsey814 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let her start horseback riding. i know, she will have a connection to these wonderful creatures.
2007-12-19 09:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tiki Tiki 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋