2007-12-19 00:34:17 · 12 answers · asked by leoprince_28 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
In general, it is hard for certain men to be both. Confidence takes a good amount of pride, self-praise, faith in himself, pride in accomplishment, or attributes. Humility is putting others first, sometimes being a doormat, but knowing you're rewarded for it, not speaking up for yourself, when others are cutting you down, but loving instead, putting God first, and abandoning yourself, and your image of yourself. There is a lot to it. Now you can be humble, and be confident in something else, like God, but you cannot be humble and be confident or prideful about yourself; it is impossible, cause deep down you wont ever be humble, even though you make an outer display of it. These are opposites. Now, you can love yourself in a healthy way, but pride cannot mix with true humility. I
2007-12-19 01:19:21 · update #1
There's a difference between being prideful and being confident. What you described is quiet confidence and confidence does not mean that you have to be brash. You can tell the difference between a person who is a doormat because they have a low opinion of and no respect for themselves and someone who would just rather take the high road than engage in drama.
2007-12-19 01:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Really? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting ie you have taken the extremes of both qualities and then concluded that these are mutually exclusive.What about the judicious mix of both and have a situational midway?Humans in real life are much more flexible,adjustable and opportunists than extremists and that is the main reason for the institution of a family to survive for so long.A society is an extended extension of a family concept and therefore survives due to similar reasons.Therefore,how far one can combine both the qualities in their life in the right proportions would depend upon his/her own level of social dexterity.
2007-12-19 10:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being humble (not pretentious) and being a wimp. In my opinion, when women say they want a confident man, they are saying that they don't a man who is afraid of his own shadow (a wimp). A person can be confident and self assured and still be humble when the moment calls for it.
2007-12-19 08:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I believe in Evolutionary Psichology studies. And confidence is instinctive attractive to women. If a man tries too hard, he is in fact being insecure.
A real confident man has trust enough in himself to be assertive, but moderate. And he always have a leadership inside of him.
I wasn't naturally like that 'cause I was raised by a woman (lost my father when I was 4 years old) and eventually bacame a christian.
My women creation and religious upbringing made me a humble christ-like guy, alwasy puttin' other above myself, thinking "well you really wanna win the conversation? go on"
Now I've learned to be assertive, developed my self-esteem and confidence, and it was way better for me. (have way more women).
That's reality.. well sometimes I just wanna be a laid-back artist playing his guitar, singing about how life should be like John Lennon did, but in this concrete jungle what really works and brings results is a confident guy, with bits of arrogance.
2007-12-19 09:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing wrong with humble. Some men may take that too far and lack any sort of confidence when they should have it.
But then you get men who think they should never be humble and are too arrogant, which I think is even worse.
I like a man who admits when he is wrong, and yes men are wrong quite often!
2007-12-19 08:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Akatsuki 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One over the other is not good. A man who is confident and realistic about his strengths and humble about his weaknesses is what is most attractive.
2007-12-19 08:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jojos Mom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how the two are automatically opposites?
Men who feel comfortable being humble are usually the real confident ones. Those who are not real confident feel the need to overcompensate with extensive ********* and lack of modesty.
2007-12-19 08:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lioness 6 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Both mixed up into one makes for a good man. So your point does not work for me because I do feel that these two attributes can coincide together. Thanks and God Bless You.
2007-12-19 11:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should there be a difference? It's possible to be confident without being arrogant. Nobody likes a jerk or a pushover.
2007-12-19 09:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can be humble but still know you are a good person. If you think you are crap what are we to think?
2007-12-19 10:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋