she and i had a fight over a guy i thought was being too rough with her one night and she denied it, since then she and i havent spoken as she thinks i was being like her mum, she wont call me wont meet me and has said she never wants to see me again this happened last sunday ( not the one just gone, the one before ) what should i do, she is my best friend and i miss her :(
2007-12-17 23:36:59 · 7 answers · asked by tiny_little_diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She probably doesnt realsise you are only trying to help. Dont give up. He sounds like a complete d.i.c.k. She'll soon realise, but just remember she can't be that good of a person to choose a guy over her best mate.
2007-12-18 01:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by janetetpamoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between us, your friend sounds like she has a little bit of a self-esteem problem. She's insecure, and would rather be abused than be alone. You just happen to burst her bubble by pointing out that she is allowing herself to be abused. I don't think she's feeling angry, I think she's feeling ashamed.
Be understanding and let her know that you are there for her and that you will stay her friend even if she's angry with.
Send her an email and explain how much it hurt you to see someone abusing her while you were watching. Tell her that you love her and that she deserves better. Tell her that the only reason you got involved was because you care about her. Tell her you weren't being her mother, but a loving and concerned friend.
Hopefully, she'll get over it soon, and you'll resume your friendship. Once you do, help improve her self-image so that this sort of incident doesn't happen again.
Good luck, good friendship and happy holidays!
2007-12-17 23:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with best friends is it is very easy to say 'I would prefer it if you told me the truth' but when you do, they can often take it the wrong way. She obviously took offence and this is probably because you were closer to the truth than she would have liked. Sometimes we do not want to hear the truth and she therefore is on a massive sulking session. If anything, you have probably got her thinking you are right. Just e-mail her or write her a letter explaining you were not trying to be like her mum, you were just concerned for her. Just let her know that you do not want to lose your friendship over this and whenever she is ready to talk then you are there and if it makes it better, you will never discuss it again. To be honest honey, if she is your best friend, she will make contact and make up with you. Otherwise, she may not have been the friend you thought she was.
2007-12-17 23:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day yeh ... ur jus tryin 2 be a realli good friend to her..maybe she's not used 2 people bein 2 nice 2 her? i did the same fing for my best friend coz we care bwt em an dont want em 2 get hurt....if she dont like it then tough...
She'll come round, let her cool off for a bit.
I had the similiar fing happen 2 me but this one's 2 do with her jealous 15 yr old sister an still is happenin coz kate my best friend yeh has changed coz of her sister =( we used 2 hang out all the time but now kate makes up stupid excuses to not meet up wit me. Lucy the sister reckons she's gonna smash my face in ((woteva)) coz she keeps sayin that im replacin her ((lucy)). We nearly broke up coz of her....They r very close sisters but anyways yeh let her cool off for a bit. hope this helps!!!
2007-12-17 23:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by ILuvU2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot save someone who doesn't want to be saved.
Just tell her you're sorry for trying to medal in her relationship and you truly only want her to be happy. You love her and it makes you sad when someone is mean to her but you'll try to mind your own business from now on.
There's not much else you can do for someone who's on a self destructive course except to try and be there to help pick up the pieces when it all crashes and burns. Just make sure she knows you're still her friend and give her some space.
2007-12-17 23:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her a letter/text/email explaining why you did what you did. Tell her you are her friend, you care about her and what happens too her, tell her you are sorry she feels the way she does about what you said but you stand by it and that you will be there for her NO MATTER WHAT!! Dont let a bloke ruin a friendship its just not worth it!!!
2007-12-17 23:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a controlling jerk that was just looking for an excuse to keep her away from you. Write her a letter or call her, and tell her that you are sorry that you hurt her, but you were concerned for her well being.
2007-12-17 23:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋