I feel entitled to a part of it not only because we are married but because he is a foreighner and after 2 yrs together i bought his papers because i love him a yr and a half after that he left me. I will never really know if he used me for a greencard but it appears that way. We have a daughter together and i have one previous marriage I just had surgery and had to move out to live with relatives. Disability is really low i only get 150 a week and have to pay 63 to keep our daughter insured under my insurance because he cancelled her the day before he graduated ait so i don't even get 90 a week. I called him and told him i want my portion for our daughter and he said your not getting a dime of my money & hung up on me & said i'm going to go withdraw it all monday so he went and withdrew 6,000 and spent 2,000 the day before. He will pay me child support if i go to his house on friday he has always been good about that but it's not a great thing he is only doing what he is suppose to
2007-12-17 23:22:55 · 8 answers · asked by poo~poo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really think he is suppose to share this bonus money with me because we are not even legally seperated and without marrying me he couldn't have even went into the military! Plus lastly and mostly i have his daughter and am recoperating from major surgery i even told him i don't know how i will buy her christmas or birthday dec 22nd It's really amazing that he thinks it's ok to keep all the money but at the same time i think he knows it's not why would he go draw it all out. I filed for divorce yesturday as i'm so discusted with this and other things any legal advice anybody can give me I also printed out his bank satement already showing he recieved the money unfortunately i'm not on his account or i would have withdrew at least half or a part. please help i think when a judge hears i made less than 90 a week and he kept 8,000 he will b in trouble i hope so after all when i suffer his daughter does to How can he sleep at nite?
2007-12-17 23:27:21 · update #1
he is 35 and me 30 he is in the reserves and at home on a break i think he is in reserves unless he lied to me because he told me he is going to korea and afganistan soon another reason i am mad that he just volunteered for all this our daughter is so young! and i think he did it because you get citizenship in one yr after military service and it takes 7 yrs to become a citizen if your not in military so don't think he so great he had his own selfish reason and left his daughter behind to do it after all if he did this for his daughter and family like a good man he would be sharing his benifits It was a way for HIM to move up and forget the wife that helped him get there!
2007-12-17 23:32:32 · update #2
You don't, just decorate the trailer and get over it.
2007-12-17 23:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You have no legal entitlement to his bonus, sorry.
If you are getting divorced, the court may order spousal support or a division of the marital estate. That is the ONLY way that you can get your hands on any of it. And keep in mind that since he has it in his hands, he can afford a pretty good attorney.
Without a court order, the military will NOT become involved as long as he pays you at least the difference between the single rate housing allowance and the with dependents rate. Been there, done that!
Now that he is in the military, his legal status now flows from there. Your divorce will NOT affect his legal status any more.
2007-12-19 06:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact family support in his division of the military. You are entitled to child support, insurance for the child, 1/2 of childcare costs and alimony (or support for you) - especially since you are his reason for legal status here. If it has only been 1 1/2 years there may be recourse for you as immigration oftens demands that the marriage be viable for more than 1 1/2 years to maintain the greeen card and his place in the military - so contact immigration as well - as tell them that he married you, got his green card, left you - and now you feel duped - they be able to help to. Get a lawyer and get legal custody of your child ASAP.
2007-12-18 07:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now,Now,Now, You need to slow down, & understand that just because you are still legally married to him does not give you the right to every little penny he gets, by law you are entitled to child support & the courts are very black n white when it comes to this, as thru the years women have been getting away with over stepping their bounds when it comes to what they feel they are entitled to, versus what they are legally entitled to, so alot of judges are rethinking & lowering judgments everyday, so while I understand you are in a financial crunch, maybe he is to? So give the guy a break, & be thankful that he,s not a deadbeat dad, as I,ve seem my share of these losers.
2007-12-18 07:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not entitled to it, however, you can go back to court and ask that he pay for at least 1/2 of her medical insurance and medical expenses.
2007-12-18 07:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is he still in the military?
If so, contact his command, and the Family advocate center.
2007-12-18 07:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by JD 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
contact vetrans admin. they may be able to help you.
Sorry for your troubles.... a break in the clouds is coming.
be patient and when it comes its all yours
2007-12-18 07:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawer!
2007-12-18 22:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Terry H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋