But sometimes it's better to just keep ur mouth shut !!
I mean sometimes i say what's on my mind for the sake of comunication with my partner and got into huge mess becuz of that
Does anyone agree ? and why ?
2007-12-17 23:19:16 · 8 answers · asked by Maria 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I think honesty in ALL cases is the best. Just use a lot of tact and mindfulness when saying things that might hurt someone's feelings.
Me and my partner try to always be honest. And yeah, sometimes my feelings get hurt, but I would rather have him tell me I look like a cow in the outift I am wearing than letting me go out looking like crap. Or I would rather here that I am being annoying than him just ignoring me.
The key is both people need to have enough confidence in themselves, each other, and their relationship to say that just because you told me something I didnt want to hear doesnt mean you meant to hurt me or that you are going to leave me, you just needed to be honest.
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2016-12-11 08:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, the 3 essentials of a good relationship are communication, honesty, and trust. If he can't accept these things, then the relationship is probably doomed to fail eventually.
Maybe you simply have a problem with tactfulness. Do you say things like "wow you are such a fat slob"? You can be honest and still be tactful. If something you say can be taken as potentially hurtful, then use careful consideration in how you say it.
If you still can't communicate without fighting, then move on to the next guy.
2007-12-17 23:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you keep ur mouth shut? if you cant say whatever is on your mind without getting into a 'huge mess' (as u call it) is it then worth being in that relationship. You should speak your mind and speak the truth!
2007-12-17 23:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by little miss naughty! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes communication feels bad in the short term, but in the long run it is crucial.
I was out with some other women, discussing how unhappy I was with my marriage, and how I was thinking about leaving. I hadn't realised my wife had called and my phone in my pocket accidentally answered - she heard everything. I naturally assumed that I was a dead man walking, and yes she was upset at first, but it also forced her to deal with the issues in our relationship and how she treated me that were making me feel like that - we got all our problems out in the open.
2007-12-18 03:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well probably when we are too honest, its hurtful to our partners.
I feel honesty is a good thing, but some areas need a delicate touch.....
2007-12-17 23:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyes_unever_4get 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i do specially if the partner is a fickle minded fool, who would not let his or her brain extention so that you could be yourself when you are talking geez!!!
2007-12-17 23:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by impissedoff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you say things, or if you know that you are pushing his buttons.
2007-12-17 23:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋