It doesn't really make sense. Wouldn't the people who were prepared for the marriage be better off?
2007-12-17 22:30:47 · 9 answers · asked by Halley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is because so much emphasis is put on that piece of paper.
I think buying a house together, cars together and all that constitutes that you have made a long term commitment. And a lot of people are happy with that.
But with other people, it has been beat into their heads that you have to have the piece of paper for the commitment to be real. So the person nags the other until they finally give in, then have a wedding and a honeymoon and spend too much money.
Thing is, that piece of paper isnt gonna keep anyone together. And really all that piece of paper does is make it hell when you seperate.
My sig other and I are not legally married, and I dont know that we ever will. I love him, he loves me. I believe with all my heart he is the one and I dont see myself with anyone else.
But, I dont know what will happen in 10 or 20 years. I dont want to go through a horrible painful divorce that cost both of us money.
For all the gov knows we are roommates and nothing more. So if we ever do split, hopefully there wont be a whole lot to fight over other than the issue. I dont ever wanna go through that kind of fight with all the money involved and craziness. I even have money in the bank saved for in case something happens. (not just a split, but what if he dies? I need money then)
2007-12-17 23:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree. i've got lived with my bf for over a three hundred and sixty 5 days now and it fairly is been stressful yet i think of it has additionally been a marvelous element for us. We do plan on getting married interior the destiny and living collectively has fairly arranged us for that for the time of a super way. We the two be attentive to what's it fairly is prefer to be collectively purely approximately 24/7 (and not kill one yet another lol), we proportion money and debt, we make judgements collectively, and maximum critically we proportion a bond that we possibly does not proportion without living collectively. If we did no longer stay collectively our relationship possibly does not attain previous a undeniable point with the aid of fact initially we lived approximately an hour aside and on an identical time as that's no longer too far, our relationship and closeness does not have stepped forward alright. i think of it would be a super mistake for us to get married without living collectively first. there is plenty you learn a pair of guy or woman via living with them which you will possibly on no account be attentive to in any different case. via living collectively, my bf and that i are transforming into to be ultimate friends.
2016-11-03 22:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For those challenging this, scroll down here to the section on cohabitation before marriage -
http://www.usattorneylegalservices.com/divorce-statistics.html
The divorce rate is almost double for those who have shacked up.
http://family.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/family.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=13379
http://www.vifamily.ca/library/cft/cohabitation.html#Do
Shacking up is simply not the commitment marriage is. Shacking up doesn't prepare you for marriage - in fact, quite the opposite. Playing house isn't the same as being in a mature, stable, and secure married relationship.
2007-12-17 23:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's the total time spent together. The more time you spend with someone the more you realize that they fart, pee on the toilet seat, vomit into the sink, and do all sorts of nasty and horrible things. When you first meet someone you have no idea that they fart. Live with someone long enough and eventually you will catch them in a long drawn-out fart, drool, or belch and that is the first step to divorce.
2007-12-17 22:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Have you actually seen statistics confirming this? I would have thought they would stay together longer rather than separating. I personally don't think anybody is prepared for marriage.
2007-12-17 22:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by LadyBug 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Halley? where are you getting your facts and figures from on this statement? and why isnt it in your question to prove your theory?
I would like for you to find the facts and figures and numbers and place them here so we can see the higher divorce rate from which you speak so nonchalantly ok? thanks sweety I'll check back later.
2007-12-17 23:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because they are all ready burned out by the time they marry and dont have that initial love feeling when do finally make it leagal. dont know why , but , thats the way it is.
2007-12-18 00:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never heard that before. where did you get this info? all i can say is, it isn't that way for us. lived together 3 years and have been married 24.
2007-12-17 23:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
because those who didnt stay together first obviously hold with traditional values and stay together for better or worse, albeit they are unhappy
simple as
2007-12-17 23:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋