stay married or divorce?

Question

2 days before my birthday, i caught my husband bringing a ***** home in the middle of the night...i thought he went over to his mum's place to sleepover. but my neighbour, who is my friend, told me that someone is in the house, but i don't believe her till i got home and its true...i was so frustrated that i slapped and hit him. it was more frustrating when i couldn't get to hit that *****. when i told his parents about this, they just wouldn't believe it, till i said that i really saw with my two eyes...and they gave him a bashing...his parents begged me to give him another chance...i don't mind that, but does he want to give himself another chance to repent? and after all this had happened, can i still have sex with him? i am in need too...but i find that he don't need me for that anymore now, but i also feel disgusted..

earlier we had some quarrels, so he thought by walking out of the house to his mum's place, i will just keep quiet. i did, till my friend told me about the lights in my house....that's when i got him...and actually from work i rushed home. i thought i forgot to lock the door....

Answer 1

i would suggest, give him another chance IF AND ONLY IF you think he deserves it..by this i mean that you should observe his behaviour.. does he repent what he did?? is he sorry for all that??does he feel what he did was wrong and is ashamed for all that??look into his eyes and talk...thats the best way to know whether he's ashamed or not..

if yes, he does then you should give him another chance and the life will return to normal after some time..(it will take some time).With time the wound will heal and you can start afresh leaving behind the bitter part..

But unfortunately if the answer is no..then its up to you who has to decide coz its not easy to lead whole life with an unfaithful partner..with a partner whom you would never be able to respect..never be able to love..trust..and who would never give you love you really deserve..marriage is a very strong relation with emotional and physical attachments to your partner which is not possible with an unfaithful person

Answer 2

Stay with him. Who brings a **** home in the middle of the night, that man likes his home, and does not have secret g/f-s. Just make sex with him, and agree that how many times a year he may bring a ***** home. So everything will be under your control. You should not be disgusted, the other female is (basically) the same like you are. And ask your husband about that what thing is that what he cannot get from you. If there is anything like this.

Answer 3

You should feel disgusted. He is disgusting. you need to think about what you have married into. If the parents bashed him and asked you to give him another chance, then maybe he is too much trouble for them to want to put up with. You need to think about your own health, the respect that he doesn't have for you, your home, your neighbors, himself, the other woman and the marriage. If he go so far as bring them home, what more do you think he will do? You would fair better if you left this disrespectful chump alone.

Answer 4

If you're considering divorce, or you've been served with divorce papers, you're probably confused and concerned about the future. Fortunately, you don't have to sort it out alone. A local divorce lawyer can explain your rights and your options and help you make good decisions right from the beginning. Mistakes you make today could impact the final order in your divorce, and you can't afford to take changes with things like custody of your children, child support, and possession of your home

Just some things to think of when you are considering divorce, it may seem easy, but there is lots to work out as you can see.

Answer 5

If you decide to divorce or not can only be your decision. No matter which way you decide to go you will sometimes wish you had of went the other way. That sucks. The one thing that I can advise you to do is to develop your own support group. It sounds to me like your in a situation where he can run home to mum and dad for support whenever he #$%^&-up and you are going to the same people for support. Keep them out of it. No matter what he does he will deserve another chance in their eyes. Get you own support group with friends that are loyal to you and will support you in your decisions. You need objective feedback that you can get from people who are not involved but you also need advice from people who will be there to follow through with moral support in your decision. I am so sorry that this happened to you. be strong.

Answer 6

Personally, I feel that there is no point for you to carry on with this relationship if one party is not trying his best to let the relation carry on. If both of you keeps on dragging, I think both of you will be more miserable. Why not break it once and for all

Answer 7

all the advice you get here won't tell you in your mind if you think he is worth another go round. only you know if you think he would be worth it, and you can't listen to other peoples thoughts and cares, you need to go somewhere alone and sit and think it thru then ask him if he really wants to work on being together and have no other women in his life but you
he has to want to work things out and be with only you and the same with you, you have to want to be with him after all he has done to you.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry , I know how it feels there is nothing worse then to see the person whom you trust your life too and love so much can do something so bad to you. But if you love him and you think he is sorry just try and hang in there , or just go. see how he acts first. and that will tell you what to do.

Answer 9

Sorry to say, the reason you two got married (you loved each other) has long since flown out the window.

The Rat

Answer 10

why is he sleeping at his Moms if he is married to you? You need to have a sit down and talk with him where your future lies and don't bring up the past. Talk about your future......if it don't feel right .pray then plan..........you need the right answers