How can i become more self-confident and have a higher self-esteem?

Question

-especially when everything goes wrong - it all goes downhill

i'm almost 16, if that helps

Answer 1

Identify what you are good at, or areas that you think you could become good. Improving yourself in those areas can help both self-esteem and self-confidence. I think its tough in high school when things go wrong because its hard to get distance from your problems. It will be easier when you go to college, but you can start working on it now.

Answer 2

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it
is motivated always by the desire to feel as good
as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our
desires (not someone else’s) that it is possible
to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a desire
is a rush of life force energy, a connection to
the divine inner self, which can never result in
actions that are harmful. It is only when true
desires are blocked that they become twisted and
ugly. This statement goes against the common
wisdom that human nature is greedy, violent and
primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite:
we are born knowing ourselves as powerful,
eternal, spiritual beings. Petty, competitive,
churlish and violent behavior must be overcome
with suitable practice. Observe your family,
friends and coworkers. Almost all of them are good
people, trying to do the best they can. It would
simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All
successful societies are based upon cooperation,
not competition. Competition works not because it
is adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork.
Ask two angry guys to get something constructive
done, it is not going to happen. All success is
based upon cooperation. That is because we live in
an attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be
dangerous because they stem from a primitive
survival instinct. But human being has a better
mind than animals. Just look around at the mess
the world is in! But that is a delusional
assertion, a denial of the basic nature of
consciousness itself. The natural impulses of
human nature stem from a connection to life force,
and it is resistance to this divine impulse which
causes the selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that
those persons who are most alive are full of
desire, and those who look lifeless have little or
no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire =
selfish behavior. It's ironic that selfish
behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological
instinct based on survival of the fittest, it’s a
pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that
selfish behavior is demonstrated. Every one of
your desires is, in its non-resisted state, joyful
and balanced, because that is an inherent property
of consciousness itself. True selfishness is
allowance of desire, without resistance, and
results in the impulse to give freely to others.
But it is first necessary to allow that impulse
within yourself.

http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html


True selfishness comes from the inner voice. It is
deeper than ideas generated by conscious mind.
It reflects the higher consciousness in us.
It raises the psyche and Self to a nobler level.

True selfishness transcends the limitations of
sub-conscious instincts. It speaks of what you
are as soul.

http://www.search.com/search?q=Psychology+Inner+Voice

Answer 3

You slowly work your way back up. Slowly. Keep in mind that success does not come instantly. Not everything will go the way you want right away, but if you keep that in mind and take baby steps...

Don't beat yourself up everytime you fall. You're human.

Answer 4

truly believe in yourself...your courage is stronger than your fear...self positive talk helps also and reading informative self help books...see whats online too that can help you :-) just remember your not alone in how you feel :-)

take care and value yourself...you really are a great person :-)