My boyfriend & I have issues about these cats & I am tired of "fighting" with him about this issue. First of all, these cats belong to his ex-wife. They have been officially divorced for the past 5 months & she keeps saying that she is going to come get her cats, but every month she has an excuse to put it off.
The problem I have isn't that I don't like the cats! My problem is...I am now pregnant, their hair is out of control all over the place, they are constantly on the counters, the litterbox idea makes me sick, the hacking up of hairballs on my bed... But most of all, one of the cats sneezes quite often and I usually seem to be the person he sneezes on! The first time, not to be gross, this cat sneezed on me while I was in bed & I had cat "BOOGERS" on my shirt, the spray from the sneeze even hit me in the face. Being pregnant, I almost threw up cleaning myself up. Today, the cat sneezed on me once again while I was in bed taking a nap. This time it was in my hair! HELP ME!
2007-12-17 20:41:51 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am adding more details because rude comments are out of control! I don't hate the cats! I don't dislike his ex-wife or the fact that he has a relationship with her. Prior to me moving, in she has left these cats with him through their separation which had been over a year! Yes, he is not mean spirited and neither am I which is why I said we "fight" about this issue! We don't constatnly argue like teenagers about this...it is just starting to be disgusting and in my opinion posing health issues for me and my unborn child! SO BE NICE!
2007-12-17 20:55:38 · update #1
URGENT- tell your boyfriend that cat faeces carries listeria and toxoplasma, dangerous to a developing foetus.
does he want your baby to be born blind? it does happen, not often but enough for concern.
this needs sorting now. he should take them directly to her house and drive off, the little furballs are not your problem.
get rid. good luck x x x
2007-12-17 20:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are taking out the resentment of the ex-wife on the kitties.
But maybe you can lock them up in the utility room are not home, and let them out when you get back. (Do they go outside at all?)
You should brush them everyday, and there are special wipes that can help with dander.
Your boyfriend should take care of the litterboxes. Pregnant women aren't supposed to have anything to do with cat feces.
Cat boogers sounds like the kitty needs a trip to the vet. Yes, I know it's someone else's cat, but that's just not right. You can keep the bill and try to get her to pay it later, BUT, I think you are going to stress yourself out.
The thing is, if you and the boyfriend can't come to terms over a silly thing like cats, what are you going to do when the baby comes, and there are real issues to discuss? You need to use the Cat Issues as practice. And if you really can't resolve them, then you need to re-think staying with this partner. Because there are more than just some cats at stake here -- and I think that's what is really upsetting you.
2007-12-17 20:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, If you two are together, you are together, but it sounds like you are not. Listen My friend has kids and her and their daddy was divorced but every time they were around each other they was sleeping together. So it sounds like you have a decision to make. You have to love yourself before you can love him. It sounds like he's using the kids as an EXCUSE trust me, and believe me. You can absolutely raise and take care of children and not LIVE in the same home as them. People can do a very good job if they are civil with each other. He's lying to you.He's using the kids as an excuse, He's playing house with her and you're his lover! No one is getting what they want but HIM! And mommy (wifey) is probably using kids too! She's absolutely hanging on to him like that. to keep him away from you because if he loved her so hard there would be no YOU. You understand what I'm saying. Someone has to help or make him make a decision. It's not the kids he's just says that so you'll feel sorry for him so you'll stay, and he gets to have everything The x-wife, The kids, You!!!! everything that he wants!!! Get you someone that doesn't have to hide you. Get you someone that loves you truly! And also I'm sure you wants something of your own, get you someone that wants to start a life with you, put a ring on your finger and puts you FIRST and #1 in everything if you don't have that you don't have anything GRADUATION TIME SHOW HIM!!
2016-03-16 02:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if I was you, I'd have a little more respect for his integrity in not just being vindictive to his ex wife. Yeah he needs to call her and tell her that she needs to come get them or they're going to a shelter or animal rescue. But constantly complaining and fighting over it isn't going to fix anything. They're just animals, just because they belonged to her doesn't make them any less living breathing creatures. At least you know that your boyfriend has some integrity and isn't mean spirited. Would you like to be treated badly after a divorce? You also need to consider that your husband might like the cats as well considering they were a part of his life BEFORE you. They were his pets as well.
2007-12-17 20:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put them in a cat carrier or cage and take them to HER house--leave them there and then you need to call a carpet cleaning company--get the house cleaned really well. Your husband has no need to be upset at your actions--just do it. cat feces and urine and spittle and mucus can make you sick--make the new baby really sick---and can be fatal if your lymph nodes swell under arms--a sign of an infection from litter boxes--your husband can either help you or he can kiss you and the baby GOODBYE--that's what you get for marrying a loser divorced man--did he tell you it was all the exes fault?? Shocker--it was his fault--I can see it from here. HIRE A TRUCK MOUNTED RUG CLEANING COMPANY..no little rug doctor thing will do the job right--and you still may need new carpet, anyway. Get the doctor to tell that loser to get the house cleaned professionally--and a cat carrier is very cheap--go to the pet store--then drive the cats over to her house--ring the doorbell and then drive away. That man is not for you--sorry-- but he is a loser and you didn't get married to get sick because of his inconsiderate, immature, disrespectful behavior..... better stand up for yourself and your baby. God this story makes me mad !!
2007-12-17 20:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha! apparently the cat is allegic to you! But seriously, just sit down ahd have a good talk with your bf instead of quarelling and tell him to really talk to his ex-wife if she still wants the cats. If she still wants, get him to give her a date to pick them up if not, he's going to put them up for adoption. At the very least, with a time ultimatum, if the cats really mean something to her, she'll do it. If not, just put them up for adoption and find a good home for them. It's really not the cats problem in this, as responsible adults, pls resolve your problem maturely
2007-12-17 20:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out of all people your hubby was supposed to understand the most. worse still, these cats belong to his ex and you sre pregnant. It's not even about the cats here and I don't think you hate the innocent animals. Your hubby must spearhead this whole issue. I suggest you talk to him and explain to him exactly how this is affecting you.
2007-12-17 20:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by flash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting about some innocent cats like teenagers! You are adults, come on! And i think that your problem is not that the cats are a bit "sneezy" but that the cats belong to his ex-wife. You don't want him to have any kind of communication with her. Get over it hun!
2007-12-17 20:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Arsenal_girl585 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should put your foot down on this.'THE CATS HAS TO GO'.i think you should tell your bf to call the x wife and tell her get them today.if there any reason she cant simply call the animal shelter to come get them,send the x the bill for that if there is one. oh yeah make sure the x knows that the shelter will be coming if she doesn't get them.
2007-12-17 20:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by charlie_t101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check with animal rights in your area. See the possible solutions to your problem. If the wife has not picked it up in a period of time, if its lawful to endorse the cat's care to an animal shelter.
2007-12-17 20:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by miggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋